Your Pet's Health - What Every Pet Owner Should Know
So you want to purchase a dog or cat. There is something you should know before you take the leap. House pets are to be taken care of like your very own children; it is natural that they become part of the family. All animals have wants, needs and health issues just like human beings. You really have to be prepared because there are many things you need to care for your pets in order to keep them happy and healthy. In regards to pet health, you have to realize that it can be costly for veterinarian visits, so you may want to consider pet health insurance.
Health insurance for our pets is an option growing in attractiveness to many owners of our canine and feline friends, especially because most consider their pet a full-fledged family member. More policies have been sold in the last year and a half than in the last 20 years, with the average monthly cost being between $9 and $25.
Some newer policies cover regular check-ups and routine care. You may not consider this to be a benefit seeing that the routine care that is covered usually costs less than the insurance premiums. Economically, pet insurance that covers unexpected, expensive health care costs make better sense. You have to as yourself some pretty grave pet health questions. For instance, if you had to pay out of your own pocket, would you seek treatment of internal injuries from an accident? Would you pay for needed cancer treatment or treatment for other diseases? What if your dog has hip dysplasia? Odds are, your pet will never need such care, but if he does, you might welcome the coverage when faced with a $5,000 bill. Other pet health questions to ask: Would I be able to afford a sequence of treatments that might add up that high? Would I feel forced to euthanize my pet if I could not come up with the money to pay? To some it is not an option.
Once you have considered these questions it will help you decide if you are going to purchase pet insurance. Deciding to purchase a health insurance policy for your pet may not be an easy decision. In many cases, preexisting medical conditions are typically excluded from coverage. Many companies that sell the policies in the past have gone out of business leaving policyholders hanging. If you decide to purchase a policy, make sure you are familiar with the fine print explaining what is covered and what is not. Gather all the information you can before making a final decision. Also before purchasing a policy make sure it is accepted by your local veterinarian or veterinarians. Be sure to review what veterinary procedures and supplies are covered. Pet health policies are similar to human insurance policies; annual premiums, deductibles, and different coverage plans based on what the owner chooses. Plans are based on breeds, age, pre-existing conditions and in some cases, lifestyle of the pet (i.e. indoor vs. outdoor cat).
Most companies start policies at age 6-8 weeks, some have no age limit, and of the others I researched, one had a limit of 27 years, others had a limit of 8 years of age (if the animal was insured when less than 8 years, coverage would continue beyond 8 years). The current overall average for annual deductibles is around $100.00. The policy costs vary, depending on the animal and the different packages that owners can choose. Some packages are comprehensive, including such things as: annual checkups and vaccinations, routine care, preventive medications (like heartworm preventive supplements) and spay/neuter surgeries. Other plans cover only accident and illness. Most plans offer immediate coverage for accident claims, and 30 days for illness claims on new policies. Additional pets are usually covered at a reduced rate after the first policy-holding pet.
So you thought the hardest part to purchasing a pet was going to be choosing the one you would take home! Well now you know that being owning a pet has all the responsibilities of having a baby. It is important that people understand before becoming pet owners there is more to it than keeping their fur flea free, purchasing treats and pet products, like collars and toys and catering to the nutrition diet or diets of your puppies or kittens. There can be serious ramifications if you take pet ownership lightly.
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luni, 8 aprilie 2013
Your Baby Nursery - Decorating a Fabulous and Functional Room
Your Baby Nursery - Decorating a Fabulous and Functional Room Decorating a baby nursery can be one of the most enjoyable tasks that you have before your bundle of joy arrives. There are many baby nursery themes to choose from and narrowing it down to just one may be your most difficult decision.
Many parents know the sex of the baby in time to tailor a nursery to a baby girl or baby boy theme. If you don't know the sex of your baby there are many color combos that are gender neutral such as periwinkle and celery green. Or perhaps you would like a neutral theme with beiges and creams. You could choose and all white room with just splashes of color used in the accessories that can be changed to suit your child as it grows.
Once you pick your theme and begin the task of decorating your nursery don't forget about these essentials;
- Cribs - Your baby will use the crib for 2 or 3 years but, if you would like to use it for longer, then pick one of the many convertible cribs on the market. These beds go from a crib, to a toddler bed, to a young child's bed, with just a few quick changes. Of course, always buy a crib that is certified as safe. Most cribs on the market today will have that certification.
- Changing tables - choose a changing table that matches your d
Many parents know the sex of the baby in time to tailor a nursery to a baby girl or baby boy theme. If you don't know the sex of your baby there are many color combos that are gender neutral such as periwinkle and celery green. Or perhaps you would like a neutral theme with beiges and creams. You could choose and all white room with just splashes of color used in the accessories that can be changed to suit your child as it grows.
Once you pick your theme and begin the task of decorating your nursery don't forget about these essentials;
- Cribs - Your baby will use the crib for 2 or 3 years but, if you would like to use it for longer, then pick one of the many convertible cribs on the market. These beds go from a crib, to a toddler bed, to a young child's bed, with just a few quick changes. Of course, always buy a crib that is certified as safe. Most cribs on the market today will have that certification.
- Changing tables - choose a changing table that matches your d
Why Do Older Babies Cry?
Why Do Older Babies Cry? From the age of about three months, babies become more aware of
their surroundings and start to be much more communicative. By
now you are likely to be able to recognise your baby's
distinctive cries, for instance when (s)he is hungry, tired, or
needs changing. However, now your baby will cry from boredom,
anxiety, frustration and teething. Whilst identifying the cause
of your baby's crying will again require a process of trial and
error, the following may be of help;
Boredom
Make sure that your baby has a selection of interesting toys
within reach. Spend time with your baby just talking or playing
or reading from a storybook. Singing and music can also be fun.
Anxiety
Your baby may cry if (s)he fears separation from you or in the
presence of strangers or if (s)he is in a strange place. Always
be supportive and never make fun of your child's fears. Reassure
your baby with soothing words in a gentle tone of voice and
cuddle him or her. When you are separated from your baby reassure
him or her that you will come back soon. Whenever possible, try
to make frequent appearances to reassure your baby that you are
nearby.
If you have to be away from him or her for longer periods (for
example with a child carer when you return to work) then take
time to make sure that your baby is used to the new environment
and the new carer. If possible, try to prepare your baby for your
being apart by starting with short periods at a time and
gradually making them longer. Make sure that you and the carer
are patient with your baby's anxiety and don't show any
frustration or impatience. If (s)he has a comfort object, such as
a toy or blanket, make sure that (s)he has it when you leave.
When you return give your baby extra cuddles and plenty of
soothing talk.
Frustration
Your baby will cry when they want to do things that they are not
yet able to or when they do not get their own way.
Make your home as childproof as possible to allow your baby to
explore in safety without you having to fuss around with moving
things out of the way.
Try and have a favorite or new toy or game to hand to distract
your baby when (s)he becomes frustrated. Offer help when (s)he
needs it but don't completely take over - allow your baby to feel
a sense of achievement. If your baby simply wants his or her own
way it is important to decide for yourself whether the issue is
an important one.
A good rule of thumb is only to assert your own will over those
things that are really important and not simply because you
prefer things a certain way. When you do decide to assert your
will then don't change your mind or this will confuse your baby
and make him or her less likely to do as you wish next time.
Provided the baby is safe then tantrums are best ignored when
possible.
Don't shout at your baby and don't punish him or her afterwards.
Explain in a reasoned way why (s)he cannot do whatever it is they
want to do. Although (s)he will not understand what you say at
first, your baby will understand your tone of voice and will
learn what you mean.
Teething
When the teeth are coming through the gums become swollen and
red. Your baby may also tug on their ear or even develop cold
symptoms whilst teething. Your baby may dribble a lot, be
irritable, clingy and have trouble sleeping. Medical treatment is
not usually necessary. Try giving him or her something to chew on
such as a cold carrot or a chilled (not frozen) teething toy. You
can also try rubbing your baby's gums with your finger or
applying a small amount teething gel.
Illness or Infection
Crying accompanying symptoms such as: fever, loss of appetite,
vomiting, skin rash, light-phobia, is more likely to be the
result of an infection. If your baby has these symptoms or if you
think your baby is unwell contact your GP or health visitor as
symptoms can progress quickly with small babies.
More information is readily available in books such as What
To Do When Your Child Gets Sick (http://www.total-kids.com/Amazon_Pages/_what+to+do+when+your+child+gets+sick_0970124503_z.asp), that can be an invaluable
resource for new parents.
their surroundings and start to be much more communicative. By
now you are likely to be able to recognise your baby's
distinctive cries, for instance when (s)he is hungry, tired, or
needs changing. However, now your baby will cry from boredom,
anxiety, frustration and teething. Whilst identifying the cause
of your baby's crying will again require a process of trial and
error, the following may be of help;
Boredom
Make sure that your baby has a selection of interesting toys
within reach. Spend time with your baby just talking or playing
or reading from a storybook. Singing and music can also be fun.
Anxiety
Your baby may cry if (s)he fears separation from you or in the
presence of strangers or if (s)he is in a strange place. Always
be supportive and never make fun of your child's fears. Reassure
your baby with soothing words in a gentle tone of voice and
cuddle him or her. When you are separated from your baby reassure
him or her that you will come back soon. Whenever possible, try
to make frequent appearances to reassure your baby that you are
nearby.
If you have to be away from him or her for longer periods (for
example with a child carer when you return to work) then take
time to make sure that your baby is used to the new environment
and the new carer. If possible, try to prepare your baby for your
being apart by starting with short periods at a time and
gradually making them longer. Make sure that you and the carer
are patient with your baby's anxiety and don't show any
frustration or impatience. If (s)he has a comfort object, such as
a toy or blanket, make sure that (s)he has it when you leave.
When you return give your baby extra cuddles and plenty of
soothing talk.
Frustration
Your baby will cry when they want to do things that they are not
yet able to or when they do not get their own way.
Make your home as childproof as possible to allow your baby to
explore in safety without you having to fuss around with moving
things out of the way.
Try and have a favorite or new toy or game to hand to distract
your baby when (s)he becomes frustrated. Offer help when (s)he
needs it but don't completely take over - allow your baby to feel
a sense of achievement. If your baby simply wants his or her own
way it is important to decide for yourself whether the issue is
an important one.
A good rule of thumb is only to assert your own will over those
things that are really important and not simply because you
prefer things a certain way. When you do decide to assert your
will then don't change your mind or this will confuse your baby
and make him or her less likely to do as you wish next time.
Provided the baby is safe then tantrums are best ignored when
possible.
Don't shout at your baby and don't punish him or her afterwards.
Explain in a reasoned way why (s)he cannot do whatever it is they
want to do. Although (s)he will not understand what you say at
first, your baby will understand your tone of voice and will
learn what you mean.
Teething
When the teeth are coming through the gums become swollen and
red. Your baby may also tug on their ear or even develop cold
symptoms whilst teething. Your baby may dribble a lot, be
irritable, clingy and have trouble sleeping. Medical treatment is
not usually necessary. Try giving him or her something to chew on
such as a cold carrot or a chilled (not frozen) teething toy. You
can also try rubbing your baby's gums with your finger or
applying a small amount teething gel.
Illness or Infection
Crying accompanying symptoms such as: fever, loss of appetite,
vomiting, skin rash, light-phobia, is more likely to be the
result of an infection. If your baby has these symptoms or if you
think your baby is unwell contact your GP or health visitor as
symptoms can progress quickly with small babies.
More information is readily available in books such as What
To Do When Your Child Gets Sick (http://www.total-kids.com/Amazon_Pages/_what+to+do+when+your+child+gets+sick_0970124503_z.asp), that can be an invaluable
resource for new parents.
Why cockatiel is the best pet bird for the beginner
Why cockatiel is the best pet bird for the beginner By Tanin Eh Boon from www.pet-cockatiel.com
Cockatiel bird have been kept and breed successfully in many countries all around the world. Cockatiel bird can be considered as the most widely kept parrot other than parakeet or budgie (budgerigar). Lots of research or expert of cockatiel emerge and many keeper have lots and lots of knowledge of cockatiel bird and their care.
I prepared this topic especially for newcomer birds enthusiast who still unable to make the decision about what species of parrot that they would like to buy. Well, there are lots and lots of parrot out there in the market. Some is very good for petting but some may not. However, for many people who haven't own any pet parrot or any pet birds, many will feel that parrot will be the same, with good personality, very friendly, good talker, a cuddle creature and a good friend when we are lonely. However, in fact it is not. Some parrot may be very nippy (bite) and rude, some parrot will tend to attached to only one person (and rude to other people), some parrot may not talk at all, while some other species may not give permission to anyone to cuddle them.
Okay, now we may go the some of the reason why in my opinion, cockatiel is one of the best pet bird for the beginner. Having said this, I didn't mean that beginner should only keep cockatiel or cockatiel is the only choices - the pet bird enthusiast actually have other option, lots of them but that is only if they are willing to learn more about the species that they choose or interested in.
Price
Price can become major obstacle for the pet bird or pet parrot enthusiast to own their dream bird. Since price of a parrot can range from few buck up until ten of thousand dollar, price is sometime a critical in deciding which parrot that the new comer should choose.
In Malaysia and I believed it happen to many other countries all around the world, price of a cockatiel is not expensive. Price may be different based on the colour mutation of the cockatiel and whether the cockatiel is handfed or parent fed. Normally parent fed cockatiel is cheaper than handfed cockatiel. This is because for handfed cockatiel, the breeder have to spent more time, effort and cost to feed the baby, while for parent fed cockatiel, the breeder didn't have to put extra effort to the bird and definitely they will have lower cost.
If we compared price of a pet cockatiel ( a good, healthy handfed baby cockatiel which can make good pet) with other species with similar quality (healthy and handfed baby birds) of the bigger parrot , the price is totally different. For the beginner, I think the price of a pet cockatiel is reasonable (even it is not the cheapest).
Noise level
Personally I think all parrot will make some noise. Some of them will have rough squak while some other may have melodies whistling. However, for the normal rule the bigger the parrot it is more likely that they able (able but not necessary they will do) to make higher level of noice. I highlight this topic up because I understand that not everyone have the priviledge to own a very big house (and area) which will able to prevent the noice from their parrot to disturb their neigbhour.
In many occasion, new comer in pet bird or pet parrot keeping fall in love with their dreamed parrot in the first sight or from their reading. They may heard or read about the parrot ability from books or from internet or they may have some friend who have this species of parrot and the parrot able to 'speak' (mimic) or perform some trick. However, many fail to realise that different people will have different level of tolerance towards noice level. For some people, they are okay with the noise that their parrot have (in the morning, afternoon and evening and sometimes all day until middle of the night). We also should consider this with the people live around us a.k.a our neigbhour.
Cockatiel will create some noise or whistling sound every now and then especially in the morning and late afternoon. However, if only one individual cockatiel is kept, the noise level that they able to create is not much and still at minimal level compared to other bigger parrot. Cockatiel also didn't have high pitch sound like lovebirds. They also normally not always 'sing' like budgie do. Generally one can keep cockatiel in all type of house - whether it is an apartment, a single house, a link house (terrace house) or a bungalow.
Talking abilities
Generally many parrot will able to mimic. This is not happen to every individual birds but lots of them do. The main different among one species and other is clearity of their voice. Normally big parrot will be easier to train to talk and will have clearer voice. Among the best talker known at this time is African Grey Parrot, Eclectus parrot and Amazon parrot. Cockatoos and macaw family also talk but they are not rank in the top talker bird.
In small parrot category, cockatiel is one of the parrot that have the ability to talk (mimic). Many will learn how to say 'hello' and some other phrase which will depend on the training given by the owner. Based on my reading, the species of parrot that hold the records of most vocabulary ( english word) is budgies! strange right ? I believed that many people will think it should be from big parrot family.
I have raised many baby cockatiel and most of them have gone to other good house. There are one individual who currently own by one of my friend which able to mimic 'hello'. This particular cockatiel name 'Cupid', and is less than a year when he mimic that word. If the cockatiel is a handfed baby, they are friendly and more trainable. They are more likely to mimic if the owner spend proper time with them everyday.
Good personality
Human have kept parrot since long time. However, in early stage most of the parrot is from wild caught. Only few that is captive breed. Later, aviculturist is growing and more parrot are produce in captivity. I believed now some of the species that we keep today is totally from captive breed stock and not from wild cought anymore. However, most of the parrot is still exotic and their personality is either still similar to their cousin in the wild or they are still not domesticated. I believed that there are many parrot out there in the market that didn't have good personality or friendly behaviour.
As far as my experience with my cockatiel, which I believed is more than 100 individual bird (many of them have been sent to good home), I think cockatiel have good, calm and friendly personality. Cockatiel rarely bullies other birds even from smaller species. (provided that they are house in good home and good environment). They normally not charge to people to bite.
Cockatiel also not very moody whereby if the cockatiel is tame, it will be tame. I mean it will not act like a 'good boy' in front of you and bite you if you didn't look at them! Yes, some parrot do this... when you look at them they may stay still but once you didn't look they come and bite you and they bite hard! Having said this, if the cockatiel is not tame, they will still bite us if we try to catch him.
Cockatiel rarely have mean personality. Most of the cockatiel is friendly, (but some individual is more friendly than other). Handfed cockatiel will still become a tame pet birds even after few year we put them in breeding stock. However, it must be given some time to be used to us again.
Small and compact in size.
Many people likely to be attracted to large bird or parrot. Obvoiusly because they are big and look so elegance. But while these species of parrot look very elegance, they also need lot of space to live happily. For some species of parrot, ten of feets of avairy is their minimum requirement for them to able to perform a healthy lifesyle. Therefore, in many cases many people will prefer to keep smaller species which similair behaviour or pet quality.
Cockatiel didn't need a very big cage to live happily. A cage of about 3 feet is somehow can make the birds flip their wings and stay healthy. Their cage also didn't have to be very strong as they are not so destructive. When they are outside their cage, they are also didn't create any damage to the furniture.
To conclude, there are lots of pets parrot in the market. However, for the beginner I still recommend smaller species of parrot or birds. In these smaller species, definitely cockatiel bird is one of the best option that they should consider.
Cockatiel bird have been kept and breed successfully in many countries all around the world. Cockatiel bird can be considered as the most widely kept parrot other than parakeet or budgie (budgerigar). Lots of research or expert of cockatiel emerge and many keeper have lots and lots of knowledge of cockatiel bird and their care.
I prepared this topic especially for newcomer birds enthusiast who still unable to make the decision about what species of parrot that they would like to buy. Well, there are lots and lots of parrot out there in the market. Some is very good for petting but some may not. However, for many people who haven't own any pet parrot or any pet birds, many will feel that parrot will be the same, with good personality, very friendly, good talker, a cuddle creature and a good friend when we are lonely. However, in fact it is not. Some parrot may be very nippy (bite) and rude, some parrot will tend to attached to only one person (and rude to other people), some parrot may not talk at all, while some other species may not give permission to anyone to cuddle them.
Okay, now we may go the some of the reason why in my opinion, cockatiel is one of the best pet bird for the beginner. Having said this, I didn't mean that beginner should only keep cockatiel or cockatiel is the only choices - the pet bird enthusiast actually have other option, lots of them but that is only if they are willing to learn more about the species that they choose or interested in.
Price
Price can become major obstacle for the pet bird or pet parrot enthusiast to own their dream bird. Since price of a parrot can range from few buck up until ten of thousand dollar, price is sometime a critical in deciding which parrot that the new comer should choose.
In Malaysia and I believed it happen to many other countries all around the world, price of a cockatiel is not expensive. Price may be different based on the colour mutation of the cockatiel and whether the cockatiel is handfed or parent fed. Normally parent fed cockatiel is cheaper than handfed cockatiel. This is because for handfed cockatiel, the breeder have to spent more time, effort and cost to feed the baby, while for parent fed cockatiel, the breeder didn't have to put extra effort to the bird and definitely they will have lower cost.
If we compared price of a pet cockatiel ( a good, healthy handfed baby cockatiel which can make good pet) with other species with similar quality (healthy and handfed baby birds) of the bigger parrot , the price is totally different. For the beginner, I think the price of a pet cockatiel is reasonable (even it is not the cheapest).
Noise level
Personally I think all parrot will make some noise. Some of them will have rough squak while some other may have melodies whistling. However, for the normal rule the bigger the parrot it is more likely that they able (able but not necessary they will do) to make higher level of noice. I highlight this topic up because I understand that not everyone have the priviledge to own a very big house (and area) which will able to prevent the noice from their parrot to disturb their neigbhour.
In many occasion, new comer in pet bird or pet parrot keeping fall in love with their dreamed parrot in the first sight or from their reading. They may heard or read about the parrot ability from books or from internet or they may have some friend who have this species of parrot and the parrot able to 'speak' (mimic) or perform some trick. However, many fail to realise that different people will have different level of tolerance towards noice level. For some people, they are okay with the noise that their parrot have (in the morning, afternoon and evening and sometimes all day until middle of the night). We also should consider this with the people live around us a.k.a our neigbhour.
Cockatiel will create some noise or whistling sound every now and then especially in the morning and late afternoon. However, if only one individual cockatiel is kept, the noise level that they able to create is not much and still at minimal level compared to other bigger parrot. Cockatiel also didn't have high pitch sound like lovebirds. They also normally not always 'sing' like budgie do. Generally one can keep cockatiel in all type of house - whether it is an apartment, a single house, a link house (terrace house) or a bungalow.
Talking abilities
Generally many parrot will able to mimic. This is not happen to every individual birds but lots of them do. The main different among one species and other is clearity of their voice. Normally big parrot will be easier to train to talk and will have clearer voice. Among the best talker known at this time is African Grey Parrot, Eclectus parrot and Amazon parrot. Cockatoos and macaw family also talk but they are not rank in the top talker bird.
In small parrot category, cockatiel is one of the parrot that have the ability to talk (mimic). Many will learn how to say 'hello' and some other phrase which will depend on the training given by the owner. Based on my reading, the species of parrot that hold the records of most vocabulary ( english word) is budgies! strange right ? I believed that many people will think it should be from big parrot family.
I have raised many baby cockatiel and most of them have gone to other good house. There are one individual who currently own by one of my friend which able to mimic 'hello'. This particular cockatiel name 'Cupid', and is less than a year when he mimic that word. If the cockatiel is a handfed baby, they are friendly and more trainable. They are more likely to mimic if the owner spend proper time with them everyday.
Good personality
Human have kept parrot since long time. However, in early stage most of the parrot is from wild caught. Only few that is captive breed. Later, aviculturist is growing and more parrot are produce in captivity. I believed now some of the species that we keep today is totally from captive breed stock and not from wild cought anymore. However, most of the parrot is still exotic and their personality is either still similar to their cousin in the wild or they are still not domesticated. I believed that there are many parrot out there in the market that didn't have good personality or friendly behaviour.
As far as my experience with my cockatiel, which I believed is more than 100 individual bird (many of them have been sent to good home), I think cockatiel have good, calm and friendly personality. Cockatiel rarely bullies other birds even from smaller species. (provided that they are house in good home and good environment). They normally not charge to people to bite.
Cockatiel also not very moody whereby if the cockatiel is tame, it will be tame. I mean it will not act like a 'good boy' in front of you and bite you if you didn't look at them! Yes, some parrot do this... when you look at them they may stay still but once you didn't look they come and bite you and they bite hard! Having said this, if the cockatiel is not tame, they will still bite us if we try to catch him.
Cockatiel rarely have mean personality. Most of the cockatiel is friendly, (but some individual is more friendly than other). Handfed cockatiel will still become a tame pet birds even after few year we put them in breeding stock. However, it must be given some time to be used to us again.
Small and compact in size.
Many people likely to be attracted to large bird or parrot. Obvoiusly because they are big and look so elegance. But while these species of parrot look very elegance, they also need lot of space to live happily. For some species of parrot, ten of feets of avairy is their minimum requirement for them to able to perform a healthy lifesyle. Therefore, in many cases many people will prefer to keep smaller species which similair behaviour or pet quality.
Cockatiel didn't need a very big cage to live happily. A cage of about 3 feet is somehow can make the birds flip their wings and stay healthy. Their cage also didn't have to be very strong as they are not so destructive. When they are outside their cage, they are also didn't create any damage to the furniture.
To conclude, there are lots of pets parrot in the market. However, for the beginner I still recommend smaller species of parrot or birds. In these smaller species, definitely cockatiel bird is one of the best option that they should consider.
Whether Your Halloween Fun is Homemade or Store-bought, Make This Year the Scariest Ever
Whether Your Halloween Fun is Homemade or Store-bought, Make This Year the Scariest Ever (ARA) - Halloween is a great time of year to let your imagination run wild. For some, the challenge of putting together a great costume, decorating for a party, or serving child-friendly or grown-up treats is what makes Halloween fun. So whether you head to the store to put together your Halloween festivity, or do it yourself -- from costume, to decorations to food -- here are a few helpful ideas to make this year's fun a real scream.
For costumes this Halloween, anything related to movie themes is hot. According to Tom Mautino, assistant manager of Costume World in Pittsburgh, Pa., the adults are favoring costumes inspired by the movie "Chicago." "A lot of our adult customers are renting, and buying, gangster costumes for guys and flapper attire for women," said Mautino. He added that other big movies inspiring costumes are Daredevil and Pirates of the Caribbean.
And for the youngsters? "Kids are more into the Hulk and of course SpiderMan is still a big hit," he said. "Storybook characters are always huge. The 60s are back too. And don't forget about Elvis!" He added that another always "in" costume is anything with animal print such as leopard.
But if you don't like the mass-market approach to Halloween costumes, try making your own. Here are a few simple ideas for the grown-ups from Kathleen Brockman, graphic design instructor with The Art Institute of Charlotte.
* Dress in brown head to toe, use eyeliner or shadow to totally blacken one eye, cut a large "P" out of construction paper and pin it to your chest: You're a black-eyed-pea.
* Alternatively, dress in green, pin a small "P" to your chest, use a British accent, and you're an English Pea.
* Wear an evening gown, lots of jewelry, a crown (Burger King crowns are great), use black eyeliner or eye shadow to draw stitches all the way around your neck: You're Marie Antoinette.
* Put a white bag over your body and stuff it with paper, color a big yellow circle on your chest, wear horns and carry a pitchfork: You're a deviled egg.
* Dress in white, wear a Burger King crown, put heart stickers all over your clothes and go to the party as the Queen (or King) of Hearts.
* Wear a white shirt and black pants and a Burger King crown, pin a big black construction paper "check" mark to your chest: You're a Royalty Check.
To set a perfectly spooky mood around your home -- for trick or treaters or a Halloween get-together -- Jack Beduhn, academic director of Interior Design at The Art Institute of California, San Diego, recommends using the common technique of "up-lighting" around your house to welcome the little ghosts and goblins.
"A simple lighting scheme should only take a few hours to position. Inexpensive, low-voltage spot lighting is available at most hardware stores," said Beduhn. "Adding some simple lighting can add eye-catching glows and eerie shadows around decorations you already have out."
Now that you've got the scary house and costume, it's time for a treat. According to Chef Toni L. D'Onofrio, of The Art Institute of New York City, this clever Halloween menu uses colors and treats of the season in a more adult way. For example, for starters, Chef D'Onofrio has created a pumpkin and caramel soup, lightly sweet and rich. The midcourse salad, says the chef "plays off the traditional colors of candy corn, orange, white and yellow." And finally, cocoa braised veal shanks show off the complexity and richness of chocolate without being sweet.
Pumpkin and Caramel Soup
Yield 4 servings
1 tablespoon vegetable oil
1/2 cup diced onion
1 clove of garlic chopped
1/2 teaspoon ground ginger
1/4 cup of sugar
1/4 cup of water
1/2 teaspoon lemon juice
1/2 cup of heavy cream
1 cup of pumpkin puree
1-1/4 cups of water
Salt and pepper
Start by saut
For costumes this Halloween, anything related to movie themes is hot. According to Tom Mautino, assistant manager of Costume World in Pittsburgh, Pa., the adults are favoring costumes inspired by the movie "Chicago." "A lot of our adult customers are renting, and buying, gangster costumes for guys and flapper attire for women," said Mautino. He added that other big movies inspiring costumes are Daredevil and Pirates of the Caribbean.
And for the youngsters? "Kids are more into the Hulk and of course SpiderMan is still a big hit," he said. "Storybook characters are always huge. The 60s are back too. And don't forget about Elvis!" He added that another always "in" costume is anything with animal print such as leopard.
But if you don't like the mass-market approach to Halloween costumes, try making your own. Here are a few simple ideas for the grown-ups from Kathleen Brockman, graphic design instructor with The Art Institute of Charlotte.
* Dress in brown head to toe, use eyeliner or shadow to totally blacken one eye, cut a large "P" out of construction paper and pin it to your chest: You're a black-eyed-pea.
* Alternatively, dress in green, pin a small "P" to your chest, use a British accent, and you're an English Pea.
* Wear an evening gown, lots of jewelry, a crown (Burger King crowns are great), use black eyeliner or eye shadow to draw stitches all the way around your neck: You're Marie Antoinette.
* Put a white bag over your body and stuff it with paper, color a big yellow circle on your chest, wear horns and carry a pitchfork: You're a deviled egg.
* Dress in white, wear a Burger King crown, put heart stickers all over your clothes and go to the party as the Queen (or King) of Hearts.
* Wear a white shirt and black pants and a Burger King crown, pin a big black construction paper "check" mark to your chest: You're a Royalty Check.
To set a perfectly spooky mood around your home -- for trick or treaters or a Halloween get-together -- Jack Beduhn, academic director of Interior Design at The Art Institute of California, San Diego, recommends using the common technique of "up-lighting" around your house to welcome the little ghosts and goblins.
"A simple lighting scheme should only take a few hours to position. Inexpensive, low-voltage spot lighting is available at most hardware stores," said Beduhn. "Adding some simple lighting can add eye-catching glows and eerie shadows around decorations you already have out."
Now that you've got the scary house and costume, it's time for a treat. According to Chef Toni L. D'Onofrio, of The Art Institute of New York City, this clever Halloween menu uses colors and treats of the season in a more adult way. For example, for starters, Chef D'Onofrio has created a pumpkin and caramel soup, lightly sweet and rich. The midcourse salad, says the chef "plays off the traditional colors of candy corn, orange, white and yellow." And finally, cocoa braised veal shanks show off the complexity and richness of chocolate without being sweet.
Pumpkin and Caramel Soup
Yield 4 servings
1 tablespoon vegetable oil
1/2 cup diced onion
1 clove of garlic chopped
1/2 teaspoon ground ginger
1/4 cup of sugar
1/4 cup of water
1/2 teaspoon lemon juice
1/2 cup of heavy cream
1 cup of pumpkin puree
1-1/4 cups of water
Salt and pepper
Start by saut
What You Need To Know About House Slippers
What You Need To Know About House Slippers Do you have any idea of what house slipper is? Well...if you look around there are some slippers available, and this slipper is just one of it. There are also bedroom slippers, basement slippers, the slippers you wear when you go out to get the morning paper and other more.
Why do people use or wear house slipper? What's so special about it? When you're feeling cold at your house nothing could be cozier than slipping your feet into a pair of slippers on a cold day. There are slides, mules, comfy slip-ons in leather and suede, corduroy or shearling. There are elegant slippers, cartoon character slippers, manly slippers, and baby slippers. One thing all slippers have in common is how at-home they make you feel.
When you wake up in the morning, especially on a cold winter day, what better feeling is there than to step into your warm, snug slippers? Lounging around the house, slippers are the perfect accessory to have.
Slippers You Need
A number of house slipper's types will be a great choice for you. There are different styles for your entire family member. What are they? Here are some of them: acorn Kids' Slipper Sock; acorn Women's Cashmere Mule; acorn Women's Ultra Moc; Ugg Men's Clugg; Old Friend Mens Scuff; Ugg Men's Byron; and other more.
Wherever you decide to wear your slippers, especially your leather slippers, you can count on wearing them for a long time--these slippers are built to last. Wear them in the morning, afternoon, or evening, in the autumn or during winter--you can be sure that many days and many seasons will pass and your slippers will remain intact. The level of reliability and comfort of these slippers is high, and you will be convinced once you've owned a pair for yourself!
Talking about brands, of course there are popular names that you already know. All depend on your favor. Branded and non-branded, all house slippers hopefully can help you ease the cold weather of winter season. Determine what style you look, and while you are at it, why not consider the perfect style for a friend or family member. You do want everybody happy with your choice in slippers.
Need some tips before/while using this house slipper? This one hopefully will help you: Before you purchase a pair of house slippers, you'll have to check in Internet a number of attractive and functional styles to choose from. Soft or hard sole slippers, moccasins, slip-ons or mules--these are just a few of the appealing styles you can find.
Is there any house slippers type that interests you? Do you know where to look for it?
The answer is here! The Web can offer you all the information you need to find the perfect slippers to wear for every possible occasion that begs for their comfort and durability. This site gives you lots of choices of house slippers products. Choose and purchase among those popular brands and gain satisfaction that you've never felt before. Enjoy your shopping!
Why do people use or wear house slipper? What's so special about it? When you're feeling cold at your house nothing could be cozier than slipping your feet into a pair of slippers on a cold day. There are slides, mules, comfy slip-ons in leather and suede, corduroy or shearling. There are elegant slippers, cartoon character slippers, manly slippers, and baby slippers. One thing all slippers have in common is how at-home they make you feel.
When you wake up in the morning, especially on a cold winter day, what better feeling is there than to step into your warm, snug slippers? Lounging around the house, slippers are the perfect accessory to have.
Slippers You Need
A number of house slipper's types will be a great choice for you. There are different styles for your entire family member. What are they? Here are some of them: acorn Kids' Slipper Sock; acorn Women's Cashmere Mule; acorn Women's Ultra Moc; Ugg Men's Clugg; Old Friend Mens Scuff; Ugg Men's Byron; and other more.
Wherever you decide to wear your slippers, especially your leather slippers, you can count on wearing them for a long time--these slippers are built to last. Wear them in the morning, afternoon, or evening, in the autumn or during winter--you can be sure that many days and many seasons will pass and your slippers will remain intact. The level of reliability and comfort of these slippers is high, and you will be convinced once you've owned a pair for yourself!
Talking about brands, of course there are popular names that you already know. All depend on your favor. Branded and non-branded, all house slippers hopefully can help you ease the cold weather of winter season. Determine what style you look, and while you are at it, why not consider the perfect style for a friend or family member. You do want everybody happy with your choice in slippers.
Need some tips before/while using this house slipper? This one hopefully will help you: Before you purchase a pair of house slippers, you'll have to check in Internet a number of attractive and functional styles to choose from. Soft or hard sole slippers, moccasins, slip-ons or mules--these are just a few of the appealing styles you can find.
Is there any house slippers type that interests you? Do you know where to look for it?
The answer is here! The Web can offer you all the information you need to find the perfect slippers to wear for every possible occasion that begs for their comfort and durability. This site gives you lots of choices of house slippers products. Choose and purchase among those popular brands and gain satisfaction that you've never felt before. Enjoy your shopping!
Weird Celebrity Baby Names
Weird Celebrity Baby Names Celebrities seem to be competing for the wierdest baby names. Among the social elite, you'll find names like Apple, Banjo, Cosima, and Daisy Boo. As always, Americans
seem to be following suit. Walk into the classroom and you don't see the same Jack and Jill's of yesteryear. Today's names are often made unique by alternate spellings, combinations of two names, and even made up names.
Here are some of the weird celebrity baby names you might see on Hollywood.
Weird Celebrity Baby Names :
Fifi Trixibelle (Paula Yates and Bob Geldof)
Moon Unit (Frank and Gail Zappa)
Apple (Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin)
Satchel (Mia Farrow and Woody Allen)
Peaches (Paula Yates and Bob Geldof)
Tiger Lily Heavenly Hirani (Paula Yates and Michael Hutchence)
Maddox (adopted by Angelina Jolie)
River (Arlyn and John Phoenix)
Dweezil (Frank/Gail Zappa)
Brooklyn (Victoria/David Beckham)
Zowie (Angie and David Bowie)
Phoenix Chi (Mel C and Jimmy Gulzar)
Banjo (Patrick and Rachel Griffiths)
Chester (Rita Wilson and Tom Hanks)
Cosima (Nigella Lawson)
Daisy Boo (Jamie Oliver)
Dexter (Diane Keaton)
Maddox (Angelina Jolie and Billy Bob Thornton)
Racer, Rebel, Rocket (Robert Rodriguez)
Willow (Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith)
Zola (Eddie Murphy)
Alli Ross is the granmamma in residence at the
seem to be following suit. Walk into the classroom and you don't see the same Jack and Jill's of yesteryear. Today's names are often made unique by alternate spellings, combinations of two names, and even made up names.
Here are some of the weird celebrity baby names you might see on Hollywood.
Weird Celebrity Baby Names :
Fifi Trixibelle (Paula Yates and Bob Geldof)
Moon Unit (Frank and Gail Zappa)
Apple (Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin)
Satchel (Mia Farrow and Woody Allen)
Peaches (Paula Yates and Bob Geldof)
Tiger Lily Heavenly Hirani (Paula Yates and Michael Hutchence)
Maddox (adopted by Angelina Jolie)
River (Arlyn and John Phoenix)
Dweezil (Frank/Gail Zappa)
Brooklyn (Victoria/David Beckham)
Zowie (Angie and David Bowie)
Phoenix Chi (Mel C and Jimmy Gulzar)
Banjo (Patrick and Rachel Griffiths)
Chester (Rita Wilson and Tom Hanks)
Cosima (Nigella Lawson)
Daisy Boo (Jamie Oliver)
Dexter (Diane Keaton)
Maddox (Angelina Jolie and Billy Bob Thornton)
Racer, Rebel, Rocket (Robert Rodriguez)
Willow (Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith)
Zola (Eddie Murphy)
Alli Ross is the granmamma in residence at the
Weddings the Greek Orthodox Way
Weddings the Greek Orthodox Way The wedding service in the Greek Orthodox faith is an ancient and beautiful ceremony, which has been celebrated in its current form for centuries. The wedding ceremony is full of symbolism and is a great experience if you have never attended one before, because it is likely to be quite different from other weddings you have attended in Western Europe. The service is also rather unique because the bride and groom do not make vows to each other - their presence together in the church is taken to mean that they are serious about getting married. There are no wedding rehearsals and the ceremony usually has a very relaxed atmosphere - guests take photos whenever they want to and often chat quietly among themselves throughout the ceremony.
The Beginning of the Wedding
In most cases the wedding guests will wait with the groom outside the church until the bride arrives (a few sneaky wedding pros will go into the church early to secure a good seat). In the Summer, when most weddings take place, it is not unusual for ceremonies to be arranged back to back, so the guests attending a marriage will often stand around with those who have just attended the previous wedding are ready to leave. Wedding dress commentators among the crowd will get to consider and discuss at least two brides and maybe even a third as they leave the church - bargain! Meanwhile, the groom waits for the bride at the entrance to the church, often holding her floral bouquet. He hands it to her as they meet and they then go inside together followed by the guests. There is no separation of the guests into guests of the bride and guests of the groom - everyone sits together and in the case of small churches, many people prefer to stand in a spot where they can get a good view of the proceedings.
Service of Betrothal
The wedding ceremony itself is in two parts: the Service of Betrothal and the Ceremony of the Sacrament of Marriage. The exchanging of rings is the focus of the Service of Betrothal. The priest blesses the rings by holding them in his right hand and making the sign of the cross over the heads of the bride and groom. The rings are then placed on the third fingers of their right hands. The "Koumbaro", the couple's religious sponsor, then swaps the rings over between the bride and groom's fingers, three times. A number of rituals in the ceremony are repeated three times and this symbolises the Holy Trinity: God the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit.
Ceremony of the Sacrament of Marriage
This Ceremony consists of several key parts. First, several prayers are said and then as they come to an end, the priest joins the right hands of the bride and groom. Their hands remain joined until the end of the wedding ceremony, which symbolises the couple's union.
The Crowning
The bride and groom are crowned with thin crowns, or "stefana", which are joined by a white ribbon and have been blessed by the priest. The crowns symbolise the glory and honour that is being bestowed on them by God, and the the ribbon symbolises their unity. The "Koumbaro" then exchanges the crowns between the heads of the couple, three times.
The Common Cup
The crowning is followed by a reading of the Gospel, which tells of the marriage of Cana at Galilee. It was at this wedding that Jesus performed his first miracle, changing water into wine, which was then given to the married couple. Wine is given to the couple and they each drink from it three times.
The Ceremonial Walk
The priest the leads the couple, who are still wearing their "stefana", three times around the altar on their first steps as a married couple. The "Koumbaro" follows close behind the couple holding the stefana place. At this point the couple (and anyone standing nearby) is usually showered with rice, which was earlier handed out to the wedding guests. The priest will often make use of the bible he is holding to give himself some protection!
The Removal of the Crowns
When the Ceremonial Walk has ended, the priest blesses the couple, the crowns are removed and he then separates their previously joined hands with the bible, reminding them that only God can break the union which they have just entered into.
Wedding traditions
Unfortunately, a lot of the information available on Greek Orthodox wedding traditions is a little outdated and contains generalisations that give the impression that certain traditions are followed by everyone who gets married. Some of these traditions are set out below.
- The baking of bread and cakes containing coins.
- Rolling a baby on the marital bed to encourage fertility.
- The throwing of money onto the marital bed.
- The pinning of money onto the bride (and sometimes also the groom) at the wedding reception.
Although these rituals are seen as traditional, fewer and fewer young people marrying today are following them, because they are seen as old-fashioned. Many people do not wish to put their guests through the ordeal of other people being able to see how much money they pin on the bride, for example. Although money is still a very common, as well as practical, wedding present it is often given to the couple before the wedding day or to a third person at the wedding reception, for safe-keeping. Greeks living in the more remote parts of Greece and abroad, who will naturally feel more strongly about doing things the traditional way, are more likely to follow these traditions than those living in Athens, for example. Like weddings in many places, Greek weddings are changing. At the time of writing, there is a growing fashion to go and get married on an island and I recently heard someone say that he was looking into getting married in a ski resort. He was wisely advised by a friend: "You had better first ask the priest if he wants to perform a marriage up a mountain"!
The Beginning of the Wedding
In most cases the wedding guests will wait with the groom outside the church until the bride arrives (a few sneaky wedding pros will go into the church early to secure a good seat). In the Summer, when most weddings take place, it is not unusual for ceremonies to be arranged back to back, so the guests attending a marriage will often stand around with those who have just attended the previous wedding are ready to leave. Wedding dress commentators among the crowd will get to consider and discuss at least two brides and maybe even a third as they leave the church - bargain! Meanwhile, the groom waits for the bride at the entrance to the church, often holding her floral bouquet. He hands it to her as they meet and they then go inside together followed by the guests. There is no separation of the guests into guests of the bride and guests of the groom - everyone sits together and in the case of small churches, many people prefer to stand in a spot where they can get a good view of the proceedings.
Service of Betrothal
The wedding ceremony itself is in two parts: the Service of Betrothal and the Ceremony of the Sacrament of Marriage. The exchanging of rings is the focus of the Service of Betrothal. The priest blesses the rings by holding them in his right hand and making the sign of the cross over the heads of the bride and groom. The rings are then placed on the third fingers of their right hands. The "Koumbaro", the couple's religious sponsor, then swaps the rings over between the bride and groom's fingers, three times. A number of rituals in the ceremony are repeated three times and this symbolises the Holy Trinity: God the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit.
Ceremony of the Sacrament of Marriage
This Ceremony consists of several key parts. First, several prayers are said and then as they come to an end, the priest joins the right hands of the bride and groom. Their hands remain joined until the end of the wedding ceremony, which symbolises the couple's union.
The Crowning
The bride and groom are crowned with thin crowns, or "stefana", which are joined by a white ribbon and have been blessed by the priest. The crowns symbolise the glory and honour that is being bestowed on them by God, and the the ribbon symbolises their unity. The "Koumbaro" then exchanges the crowns between the heads of the couple, three times.
The Common Cup
The crowning is followed by a reading of the Gospel, which tells of the marriage of Cana at Galilee. It was at this wedding that Jesus performed his first miracle, changing water into wine, which was then given to the married couple. Wine is given to the couple and they each drink from it three times.
The Ceremonial Walk
The priest the leads the couple, who are still wearing their "stefana", three times around the altar on their first steps as a married couple. The "Koumbaro" follows close behind the couple holding the stefana place. At this point the couple (and anyone standing nearby) is usually showered with rice, which was earlier handed out to the wedding guests. The priest will often make use of the bible he is holding to give himself some protection!
The Removal of the Crowns
When the Ceremonial Walk has ended, the priest blesses the couple, the crowns are removed and he then separates their previously joined hands with the bible, reminding them that only God can break the union which they have just entered into.
Wedding traditions
Unfortunately, a lot of the information available on Greek Orthodox wedding traditions is a little outdated and contains generalisations that give the impression that certain traditions are followed by everyone who gets married. Some of these traditions are set out below.
- The baking of bread and cakes containing coins.
- Rolling a baby on the marital bed to encourage fertility.
- The throwing of money onto the marital bed.
- The pinning of money onto the bride (and sometimes also the groom) at the wedding reception.
Although these rituals are seen as traditional, fewer and fewer young people marrying today are following them, because they are seen as old-fashioned. Many people do not wish to put their guests through the ordeal of other people being able to see how much money they pin on the bride, for example. Although money is still a very common, as well as practical, wedding present it is often given to the couple before the wedding day or to a third person at the wedding reception, for safe-keeping. Greeks living in the more remote parts of Greece and abroad, who will naturally feel more strongly about doing things the traditional way, are more likely to follow these traditions than those living in Athens, for example. Like weddings in many places, Greek weddings are changing. At the time of writing, there is a growing fashion to go and get married on an island and I recently heard someone say that he was looking into getting married in a ski resort. He was wisely advised by a friend: "You had better first ask the priest if he wants to perform a marriage up a mountain"!
Weaning Puppies Is Only Natural
Weaning Puppies Is Only Natural Weaning puppies is a perfectly natural process. Mamma dogs have been doing it successfully for ages, so how hard can it be, right?
But humans, not being dogs, can sometimes forget the natural part, and get confused about it.
Fact is, weaning puppies is an easy, logical process.
When you're ready to begin weaning your new puppies, keep in mind that this should be done gradually, in small steps. You can't rush it, and you definitely don't want to begin when the puppies are too young.
Sometimes people get impatient and try to begin weaning puppies before they're three weeks old. That's too early. Their bodies need to develop the ability to handle solid food, and that takes time. Wait the three weeks -- it's not really so long.
The first step in the weaning process is to take the mother away from the puppies at least an hour before it's time for them to eat. This gives the puppies a chance to get good and hungry. They'll be more inclined to try the new, alternative food you offer them.
Remember, when it's time for the puppies to eat, the mother should be nowhere around.
The alternative food you offer them should be liquid or semi-liquid so it's easy for them to swallow and digest. Solid food won't work for them yet.
You can make a gruel of commercial dog food mixed with water or baby cereal thinned with water. Another option when weaning puppies is to use diluted strained baby food.
Put any of these mixtures in a small, shallow dish. Some of the puppies will have no problem eating. They'll catch on immediately. But there may be a few that just don't get it. So they'll need some encouragement. The easiest way is to put a little of the mixture on the tip of their nose or on their tongue.
When weaning puppies you'll also need to decrease the amount of food you're giving the mother. This causes her to produce less milk. At the same time, you can gradually begin increasing the amount of food you give the puppies, and over the next several days make it less soupy. As they grow and their digestion matures, their food should slowly become more solid, day by day.
Weaning puppies at this point becomes easier because, as the solid food grows more familiar to them, they learn to enjoy it more. Let them eat as much as they want as long as they don't become bloated.
If you approach weaning puppies like this, the process should be simple, painless and easy. Expect to see them completely weaned by the time they're six to eight weeks old.
But humans, not being dogs, can sometimes forget the natural part, and get confused about it.
Fact is, weaning puppies is an easy, logical process.
When you're ready to begin weaning your new puppies, keep in mind that this should be done gradually, in small steps. You can't rush it, and you definitely don't want to begin when the puppies are too young.
Sometimes people get impatient and try to begin weaning puppies before they're three weeks old. That's too early. Their bodies need to develop the ability to handle solid food, and that takes time. Wait the three weeks -- it's not really so long.
The first step in the weaning process is to take the mother away from the puppies at least an hour before it's time for them to eat. This gives the puppies a chance to get good and hungry. They'll be more inclined to try the new, alternative food you offer them.
Remember, when it's time for the puppies to eat, the mother should be nowhere around.
The alternative food you offer them should be liquid or semi-liquid so it's easy for them to swallow and digest. Solid food won't work for them yet.
You can make a gruel of commercial dog food mixed with water or baby cereal thinned with water. Another option when weaning puppies is to use diluted strained baby food.
Put any of these mixtures in a small, shallow dish. Some of the puppies will have no problem eating. They'll catch on immediately. But there may be a few that just don't get it. So they'll need some encouragement. The easiest way is to put a little of the mixture on the tip of their nose or on their tongue.
When weaning puppies you'll also need to decrease the amount of food you're giving the mother. This causes her to produce less milk. At the same time, you can gradually begin increasing the amount of food you give the puppies, and over the next several days make it less soupy. As they grow and their digestion matures, their food should slowly become more solid, day by day.
Weaning puppies at this point becomes easier because, as the solid food grows more familiar to them, they learn to enjoy it more. Let them eat as much as they want as long as they don't become bloated.
If you approach weaning puppies like this, the process should be simple, painless and easy. Expect to see them completely weaned by the time they're six to eight weeks old.
Watering Your Young Child's Mind
Watering Your Young Child's Mind Mary, Mary, quite contrary,
How does your garden grow?
With silver bells and cockle shells
And pretty maids all in a row.
It's an everyday nursery rhyme, it's simple to sing with your small child, and apparently this nursery rhyme about a little child watering her garden is watering your little child's mind!
Early childhood educators have identified pre-reading skills that are necessary for the learning of reading and the mastery of language. They include phonological awareness, or the awareness of speech sounds and rhyme similarities, vocabulary or knowing lots of words, and the more a child loves the enjoyment and pleasure of using language, the more success they will have in reading and writing and academic studies. Nursery rhymes, with their words of imagery, rhymes and rhythm that children find so fun, have all these qualities!
Let's look at other ways that you are probably already simply, instinctively and effectively watering your child's mind, and what the researchers are now saying about it.
Let's look at songs and music, activities that lots of caregivers instinctively share with their children. The National Network for Child Care at http://www.nncc.org/Series/good.time.music.html explains why songs, action songs, music and rhythm are important for children. They allow children to express their emotions, channel their energy creatively, gain confidence in themselves as they coordinate their minds and their bodies together, learn new words and ideas, and learn about themselves as they explore what they like, what they like when and what they can do. Learning these physical and emotional controls, ways of expression and self-knowledge are necessary for a happy life now in childhood and in their future adulthood. This is the real reason why we let our toddlers take out the pots, pans and wooden spoons and bang them, making a terrible ruckus.
How about even simpler, even more unassuming activities, such as having fun blowing a dandelion's seeds into the air. The child development psychologists Linda Acredolo and Susan Goodwyn in their book "Baby Minds: Brain-Building Games Your Baby Will Love" explain that such a simple yet fun and stimulating activity will stimulate your baby's brain development. The practical conclusion that these researchers draw from the latest research is that "If your baby is not having fun, it's probably not worth doing".
Thus, the conclusion we can draw is "If your small child is having fun, then it's probably stimulating your child's physical and mental development". We already instinctively knew that, and so it's wonderful to have researchers and experts confirming and encouraging this. Whenever my toddler pulls the toilet paper still on its roll and runs around the house redecorating it in toilet paper, I just tell myself that this is a fantastic activity for his brain, body and creative imagination.
Actually, small children are programmed to learn and to engage in activities that will develop their minds and bodies. It probably has not escaped your attention that kids will naturally invent a fun and interesting game (fun and interesting to the child) out of absolutely anything. The brain plasticity scientist Lise Eliot explains in "What's Going On In There? How the Brain and Mind Develop in the First Five Years of Life" that there are way too many connections in the brain and communications with the rest of the body - billions of neurons and a quadrillion synapses at last count - for it to be preprogrammed in genetic DNA material. Thus, babies and children are programmed to try things out and to repetitively practise them for days and weeks and months, so that brain circuitry will sprout in the first place and then solidify to become permanent. Actually, this is my own layperson's description. Lise Eliot refers to it as neurogenesis, synaptogenesis and myelination. It's the reason why babies kick in the womb, so that the connection between the leg-kicking part of the brain and the actual leg can be developed. It's the reason why my newly mobile son never tires of playing with the toilet brush in the toilet bowl, developing and practising his hand-eye coordination and his understanding of the physical world, in this visual, audio and tactile activity of splashing water.
We all know that cuddling our babies and children is important for their emotional and psychological development. Lise Eliot gives examples in the chapter "The Importance of Touch" of how touch and physical contact increases physical and brain development. Studies show that premature babies that receive cuddling and massages thrive measurably more and do better on visual baby tests. Children with various medical problems had better clinical outcomes after receiving massage therapy. Perhaps you have seen the famous "Rescuing Hug" (such as at http://www.daurelia.com/spirit/rescue.htm or http://www.snopes.com/glurge/hug.htm), where the physical touch of her baby twin sister was responsible for the very survival of a premature baby.
Let's talk about talking. The very experienced authority on early childhood development Dr Burton White gives the following advice. Allow your newly mobile child to explore your home. He'll bring things back to show you and will have a need to be fulfilled when doing that. Stop, quickly look and see what that need is, and then respond to the need. Dr Burton White says that the secret to teaching language, whether it be verbal language or sign language, is to respond to that need with language and play on that need. Dr White is the author of "First Three Years of Life" and "Raising a Happy Unspoiled Child", and you can see and hear him giving this advice in Joseph Garcia's "Sign with your Baby" video. And in my house, you can see me having a conversation with a toddler about a wet toilet brush he has just brought me.
How to increase your child's mathematics ability? Studies have shown that studying music statistically significantly increases children's math skills and spatial-temporal reasoning abilities. The question now is why. A "Today's Parent" article at http://www.todaysparent.com/education/general/article.jsp?content=20030903_124111_1696&page=1 cites a brain-imaging "Mozart Effect" type of study that showed that the same parts of the brain were active when listening to Mozart as when doing puzzles and playing chess, suggesting that music is like warm-up exercises for the brain. Another study cited in that article goes much further, suggesting that music is more than just a cultural artifact; that our brains are actually structured for music, just like our brains are structured for speech and walking. Brain patterns were mapped and assigned musical tones to mark changes in neural activity. When played back, instead of sounding like a random sequence of notes, it almost sounded like a melody of a recognizable style of music!
"No!" - We hear it from those terrible-twos toddlers. Well, Lise Eliot in "What's Going On In There?" presents a study about the effects of parents saying "No", "Don't" and "Stop it" on the development of their children. Research established that children that heard a larger proportion of this type of negative feedback had poorer language skills than children whose parents kept their negative responses to a minimum and instead gave encouraging, positive and dialog-inducing responses. The online games at www.KiddiesGames.com provide a fun model of this positive pattern of interaction. When the child playing a game gets something right, the friendly child character on the screen says "That's right!" or congratulates the player. When the child playing a game clicks on the wrong thing, the upbeat child on the screen doesn't actually say "No" or "Wrong". Instead, it explains in the same positive tone what the child playing just did and what another possible (and correct) answer could have been. The feedback is accurate and positively and cheeringly encouraging. As far as I know, there have been no studies done on the effects that toddlers saying "No" to their parents have on those parents...
Can you remember all this information next time you're interacting with your small child? Let's summarize it all like the current Canadian CBS Television campaign slogan - "1) Comfort, 2) play with and 3) teach your child", in that order. This is how you water your child's mind, and you're probably already doing it. So follow your instinct, let your child lead the way to play, go with the flow and enjoy playing with your small child. While the results of recent studies may be news to you, the recommended actions are just a reminder!
How does your garden grow?
With silver bells and cockle shells
And pretty maids all in a row.
It's an everyday nursery rhyme, it's simple to sing with your small child, and apparently this nursery rhyme about a little child watering her garden is watering your little child's mind!
Early childhood educators have identified pre-reading skills that are necessary for the learning of reading and the mastery of language. They include phonological awareness, or the awareness of speech sounds and rhyme similarities, vocabulary or knowing lots of words, and the more a child loves the enjoyment and pleasure of using language, the more success they will have in reading and writing and academic studies. Nursery rhymes, with their words of imagery, rhymes and rhythm that children find so fun, have all these qualities!
Let's look at other ways that you are probably already simply, instinctively and effectively watering your child's mind, and what the researchers are now saying about it.
Let's look at songs and music, activities that lots of caregivers instinctively share with their children. The National Network for Child Care at http://www.nncc.org/Series/good.time.music.html explains why songs, action songs, music and rhythm are important for children. They allow children to express their emotions, channel their energy creatively, gain confidence in themselves as they coordinate their minds and their bodies together, learn new words and ideas, and learn about themselves as they explore what they like, what they like when and what they can do. Learning these physical and emotional controls, ways of expression and self-knowledge are necessary for a happy life now in childhood and in their future adulthood. This is the real reason why we let our toddlers take out the pots, pans and wooden spoons and bang them, making a terrible ruckus.
How about even simpler, even more unassuming activities, such as having fun blowing a dandelion's seeds into the air. The child development psychologists Linda Acredolo and Susan Goodwyn in their book "Baby Minds: Brain-Building Games Your Baby Will Love" explain that such a simple yet fun and stimulating activity will stimulate your baby's brain development. The practical conclusion that these researchers draw from the latest research is that "If your baby is not having fun, it's probably not worth doing".
Thus, the conclusion we can draw is "If your small child is having fun, then it's probably stimulating your child's physical and mental development". We already instinctively knew that, and so it's wonderful to have researchers and experts confirming and encouraging this. Whenever my toddler pulls the toilet paper still on its roll and runs around the house redecorating it in toilet paper, I just tell myself that this is a fantastic activity for his brain, body and creative imagination.
Actually, small children are programmed to learn and to engage in activities that will develop their minds and bodies. It probably has not escaped your attention that kids will naturally invent a fun and interesting game (fun and interesting to the child) out of absolutely anything. The brain plasticity scientist Lise Eliot explains in "What's Going On In There? How the Brain and Mind Develop in the First Five Years of Life" that there are way too many connections in the brain and communications with the rest of the body - billions of neurons and a quadrillion synapses at last count - for it to be preprogrammed in genetic DNA material. Thus, babies and children are programmed to try things out and to repetitively practise them for days and weeks and months, so that brain circuitry will sprout in the first place and then solidify to become permanent. Actually, this is my own layperson's description. Lise Eliot refers to it as neurogenesis, synaptogenesis and myelination. It's the reason why babies kick in the womb, so that the connection between the leg-kicking part of the brain and the actual leg can be developed. It's the reason why my newly mobile son never tires of playing with the toilet brush in the toilet bowl, developing and practising his hand-eye coordination and his understanding of the physical world, in this visual, audio and tactile activity of splashing water.
We all know that cuddling our babies and children is important for their emotional and psychological development. Lise Eliot gives examples in the chapter "The Importance of Touch" of how touch and physical contact increases physical and brain development. Studies show that premature babies that receive cuddling and massages thrive measurably more and do better on visual baby tests. Children with various medical problems had better clinical outcomes after receiving massage therapy. Perhaps you have seen the famous "Rescuing Hug" (such as at http://www.daurelia.com/spirit/rescue.htm or http://www.snopes.com/glurge/hug.htm), where the physical touch of her baby twin sister was responsible for the very survival of a premature baby.
Let's talk about talking. The very experienced authority on early childhood development Dr Burton White gives the following advice. Allow your newly mobile child to explore your home. He'll bring things back to show you and will have a need to be fulfilled when doing that. Stop, quickly look and see what that need is, and then respond to the need. Dr Burton White says that the secret to teaching language, whether it be verbal language or sign language, is to respond to that need with language and play on that need. Dr White is the author of "First Three Years of Life" and "Raising a Happy Unspoiled Child", and you can see and hear him giving this advice in Joseph Garcia's "Sign with your Baby" video. And in my house, you can see me having a conversation with a toddler about a wet toilet brush he has just brought me.
How to increase your child's mathematics ability? Studies have shown that studying music statistically significantly increases children's math skills and spatial-temporal reasoning abilities. The question now is why. A "Today's Parent" article at http://www.todaysparent.com/education/general/article.jsp?content=20030903_124111_1696&page=1 cites a brain-imaging "Mozart Effect" type of study that showed that the same parts of the brain were active when listening to Mozart as when doing puzzles and playing chess, suggesting that music is like warm-up exercises for the brain. Another study cited in that article goes much further, suggesting that music is more than just a cultural artifact; that our brains are actually structured for music, just like our brains are structured for speech and walking. Brain patterns were mapped and assigned musical tones to mark changes in neural activity. When played back, instead of sounding like a random sequence of notes, it almost sounded like a melody of a recognizable style of music!
"No!" - We hear it from those terrible-twos toddlers. Well, Lise Eliot in "What's Going On In There?" presents a study about the effects of parents saying "No", "Don't" and "Stop it" on the development of their children. Research established that children that heard a larger proportion of this type of negative feedback had poorer language skills than children whose parents kept their negative responses to a minimum and instead gave encouraging, positive and dialog-inducing responses. The online games at www.KiddiesGames.com provide a fun model of this positive pattern of interaction. When the child playing a game gets something right, the friendly child character on the screen says "That's right!" or congratulates the player. When the child playing a game clicks on the wrong thing, the upbeat child on the screen doesn't actually say "No" or "Wrong". Instead, it explains in the same positive tone what the child playing just did and what another possible (and correct) answer could have been. The feedback is accurate and positively and cheeringly encouraging. As far as I know, there have been no studies done on the effects that toddlers saying "No" to their parents have on those parents...
Can you remember all this information next time you're interacting with your small child? Let's summarize it all like the current Canadian CBS Television campaign slogan - "1) Comfort, 2) play with and 3) teach your child", in that order. This is how you water your child's mind, and you're probably already doing it. So follow your instinct, let your child lead the way to play, go with the flow and enjoy playing with your small child. While the results of recent studies may be news to you, the recommended actions are just a reminder!
Using House Slippers Make You Feel At Home
Using House Slippers Make You Feel At Home Do you have any idea of what house slipper is? Well...if you look around there are some slippers available, and this slipper is just one of it. There are also bedroom slippers, basement slippers, the slippers you wear when you go out to get the morning paper and other more.
Why do people use or wear house slipper? What's so special about it? When you're feeling cold at your house nothing could be cozier than slipping your feet into a pair of slippers on a cold day. There are slides, mules, comfy slip-ons in leather and suede, corduroy or shearling. There are elegant slippers, cartoon character slippers, manly slippers, and baby slippers. One thing all slippers have in common is how at-home they make you feel.
When you wake up in the morning, especially on a cold winter day, what better feeling is there than to step into your warm, snug slippers? Lounging around the house, slippers are the perfect accessory to have.
Slippers You Need
A number of house slipper's types will be a great choice for you. There are different styles for your entire family member. What are they? Here are some of them: acorn Kids' Slipper Sock; acorn Women's Cashmere Mule; acorn Women's Ultra Moc; Ugg Men's Clugg; Old Friend Mens Scuff; Ugg Men's Byron; and other more.
Wherever you decide to wear your slippers, especially your leather slippers, you can count on wearing them for a long time--these slippers are built to last. Wear them in the morning, afternoon, or evening, in the autumn or during winter--you can be sure that many days and many seasons will pass and your slippers will remain intact. The level of reliability and comfort of these slippers is high, and you will be convinced once you've owned a pair for yourself!
Talking about brands, of course there are popular names that you already know. All depend on your favor. Branded and non-branded, all house slippers hopefully can help you ease the cold weather of winter season. Determine what style you look, and while you are at it, why not consider the perfect style for a friend or family member. You do want everybody happy with your choice in slippers.
Need some tips before/while using this house slipper? This one hopefully will help you: Before you purchase a pair of house slippers, you'll have to check in Internet a number of attractive and functional styles to choose from. Soft or hard sole slippers, moccasins, slip-ons or mules--these are just a few of the appealing styles you can find.
Is there any house slippers type that interests you? Do you know where to look for it?
The answer is here! The Web can offer you all the information you need to find the perfect slippers to wear for every possible occasion that begs for their comfort and durability. This site gives you lots of choices of house slippers products. Choose and purchase among those popular brands and gain satisfaction that you've never felt before. Enjoy your shopping!
Why do people use or wear house slipper? What's so special about it? When you're feeling cold at your house nothing could be cozier than slipping your feet into a pair of slippers on a cold day. There are slides, mules, comfy slip-ons in leather and suede, corduroy or shearling. There are elegant slippers, cartoon character slippers, manly slippers, and baby slippers. One thing all slippers have in common is how at-home they make you feel.
When you wake up in the morning, especially on a cold winter day, what better feeling is there than to step into your warm, snug slippers? Lounging around the house, slippers are the perfect accessory to have.
Slippers You Need
A number of house slipper's types will be a great choice for you. There are different styles for your entire family member. What are they? Here are some of them: acorn Kids' Slipper Sock; acorn Women's Cashmere Mule; acorn Women's Ultra Moc; Ugg Men's Clugg; Old Friend Mens Scuff; Ugg Men's Byron; and other more.
Wherever you decide to wear your slippers, especially your leather slippers, you can count on wearing them for a long time--these slippers are built to last. Wear them in the morning, afternoon, or evening, in the autumn or during winter--you can be sure that many days and many seasons will pass and your slippers will remain intact. The level of reliability and comfort of these slippers is high, and you will be convinced once you've owned a pair for yourself!
Talking about brands, of course there are popular names that you already know. All depend on your favor. Branded and non-branded, all house slippers hopefully can help you ease the cold weather of winter season. Determine what style you look, and while you are at it, why not consider the perfect style for a friend or family member. You do want everybody happy with your choice in slippers.
Need some tips before/while using this house slipper? This one hopefully will help you: Before you purchase a pair of house slippers, you'll have to check in Internet a number of attractive and functional styles to choose from. Soft or hard sole slippers, moccasins, slip-ons or mules--these are just a few of the appealing styles you can find.
Is there any house slippers type that interests you? Do you know where to look for it?
The answer is here! The Web can offer you all the information you need to find the perfect slippers to wear for every possible occasion that begs for their comfort and durability. This site gives you lots of choices of house slippers products. Choose and purchase among those popular brands and gain satisfaction that you've never felt before. Enjoy your shopping!
Use Party Favors to brighten up any party!
Use Party Favors to brighten up any party! Many times, when you attend a party, you receive a party favor. This is usually something small that you can take home with you to remind you of the party for years to come. In most instances, party favors are only given to women or children as a small gift. Kids party favors might be a simple balloon or even a goody bag filled with small items for the child. Adults often receive small statues or trinkets as party favors.
Birthday party favors can be anything from balloons to toys given out at the end of a child's birthday party. Baby shower party favors might be little booties with the couple's name stitched in or simply a ceramic shoe that looks like a child's. Wedding shower party favors may be very stylish and elegant, so simple and playful. Graduation party favors may be anything from a rolled up announcement of graduation to a graduation cap and tassel.
With so many reasons to have party favors its no wonder there are so many choices out there. If you are a crafty type of person, you may wish to visit a local craft store and see what they have to offer. Many times they have plastic or even ceramic items that can be dressed up and used as party favors. Adding some flowers or ribbon would add a nice tough. Often times, personalized party favors can be made by simply attaching a ribbon with a small tag with the details listed.
Birthday party favors can be anything from balloons to toys given out at the end of a child's birthday party. Baby shower party favors might be little booties with the couple's name stitched in or simply a ceramic shoe that looks like a child's. Wedding shower party favors may be very stylish and elegant, so simple and playful. Graduation party favors may be anything from a rolled up announcement of graduation to a graduation cap and tassel.
With so many reasons to have party favors its no wonder there are so many choices out there. If you are a crafty type of person, you may wish to visit a local craft store and see what they have to offer. Many times they have plastic or even ceramic items that can be dressed up and used as party favors. Adding some flowers or ribbon would add a nice tough. Often times, personalized party favors can be made by simply attaching a ribbon with a small tag with the details listed.
Use Of Home Security Cameras Increase
Use Of Home Security Cameras Increase Unfortunately, the world is not as safe as it used to be. With crime in the home on the rise, more and more people are looking at options to make their homes more safe and secure. One option for home security that is becoming very popular is the use of home security cameras. These types of video systems can give a homeowner the sense of security and the peace of mind that they are looking for. Now, people can record their nanny or babysitter while they are away, see who is at the door before answering it, and find out if someone is on your property without having to go outside and possibly expose themselves to harm.
The home security camera options are vast. There are many sites on the Internet and a variety of catalogs that offer many different types of home surveillance equipment. You can buy a ready-made system for a reasonable price, or have a custom-designed system that is more costly but also very effective. They can also offer advice about the best kind of system for your needs and your budget.
There are both wireless and wired options for security cameras. Most people tend to go with the wireless choice, because anyone can install them in a short amount of time and they are easy to use. However, some people prefer the traditional CCTV option with wires to install. However, all of these types of security systems work with the equipment you already have. For instance, you can have live color images sent to your TV, or have them recorded on your VCR. If you need additional recording time, you can always choose to go with a digital recorder, which is more expensive but also gives you a lot more latitude in how much footage you need to record. These systems are weatherproof so that they work inside or outside, depending on your needs.
A homeowner can choose a simple camera, large or very small to mount in any place they desire. They can also get additional security items, such as motion detectors and night vision cameras. The variety of surveillance equipment is endless, and you can monitor any area you want to. The only factor is how much you are willing to spend on this kind of security stuff for your home.
One factor that is extremely important to consider when choosing a home security camera is camera resolution. A camera with a higher resolution will have a much clearer and sharper picture. So paying more for a higher resolution camera makes sense in the long run because you will have the kind of quality picture you need for your home security. Choosing a home security system does not have to be difficult or costly. Most security cameras can be installed easily and will provide you with the peace of mind you crave.
The home security camera options are vast. There are many sites on the Internet and a variety of catalogs that offer many different types of home surveillance equipment. You can buy a ready-made system for a reasonable price, or have a custom-designed system that is more costly but also very effective. They can also offer advice about the best kind of system for your needs and your budget.
There are both wireless and wired options for security cameras. Most people tend to go with the wireless choice, because anyone can install them in a short amount of time and they are easy to use. However, some people prefer the traditional CCTV option with wires to install. However, all of these types of security systems work with the equipment you already have. For instance, you can have live color images sent to your TV, or have them recorded on your VCR. If you need additional recording time, you can always choose to go with a digital recorder, which is more expensive but also gives you a lot more latitude in how much footage you need to record. These systems are weatherproof so that they work inside or outside, depending on your needs.
A homeowner can choose a simple camera, large or very small to mount in any place they desire. They can also get additional security items, such as motion detectors and night vision cameras. The variety of surveillance equipment is endless, and you can monitor any area you want to. The only factor is how much you are willing to spend on this kind of security stuff for your home.
One factor that is extremely important to consider when choosing a home security camera is camera resolution. A camera with a higher resolution will have a much clearer and sharper picture. So paying more for a higher resolution camera makes sense in the long run because you will have the kind of quality picture you need for your home security. Choosing a home security system does not have to be difficult or costly. Most security cameras can be installed easily and will provide you with the peace of mind you crave.
Unique Baby Names
Unique Baby Names What's in a name? Er...well, everything, really! Of course your little bundle of joy is the sweetest, most beautiful thing you have ever seen and you want to choose a name that reflects his/her individuality, spirituality, uniqueness and all-round special-ness.
But wait a minute!
Remember that the unique baby name you choose will help define junior's life - how they are viewed and accepted - for many, many years. What sounds cute and original for a 5-year-old, may not sound so funky for a 15-year-old...and what about a 55-year old?
Time was when only celebrities could get away with unique baby names (Zowie Bowie, Dweezil and Moon Unit Zappa, etc), but in the modern world, individuality is more prized than ever before, and increasingly, this starts with our names. Great idea - but don't allow a flash of a self-indulgence to condemn your child to a lifetime of problems; it's reported that a Chinese couple named their child "Saddam Sars" to mark the current world events at the time of the birth! I just hope it means something nice in Mandarin, or Cantonese!
This probably wouldn't have happened in Germany, where names can only be registered if they recognizable, do not ridicule the child and are gender specific. Perhaps there is at least one Chinese child in the world, who will grow up wishing he/she were German!
So - assuming you are not German - what should you do if you want to create a unique baby name, without creating too many problems? Here are some tips and some warnings to make the process less painful:
1. Anagrams: try creating an anagram of an existing name.
2. Father and Mother: try using derivatives of one of the parents' names, or a combination of both. Alternatively, how does the mother's maiden name sound as a first name?
3. Telescoping: try dropping letters from another name or a word, until you get a nice-sounding name.
4. Spelling: an unusual spelling of a common name creates uniqueness. However, remember that your child will be condemned to a lifetime of "...that's David spelt D..A..Y..V..I..D..." conversations.
5. Pronunciation: another trick is to pronounce a common name in an unusual way. But this can also lead to a lifetime of corrections and explanations - as well as teasing and accusations of pretentiousness.
6. History: do some research into names that were popular in previous eras, but have become less so.
7. Family History: are there any unusual baby names that can be used to honor family members or ancestors? But beware family politics...
8. Nature: many names come from the natural world, particularly flowers (e.g. Rose) and it's a great source for unique baby names (e.g. Gwyneth Paltrow's daughter Apple).
9. Geography: another useful source of great names - grab an atlas and start searching. David and Victoria Beckham called their first son Brooklyn, which many people think is a cool-sounding name. However, it's reported that the choice was made because that's where conception took place. Hmmm, imagine a lifetime in which your name is a constant reminder of your parents having sex! Eeeuuuuww!!!
10. Celebrities: famous people with slightly unusual names are a common source of inspiration. There are lots of teenage "Kylie"s running around the UK since Kylie Minogue's arrival on the music scene at end of the '80's, and her recent resurgence, will have created a second wave of them. And I'm sure many little "Be'yonce"s have been popping up over the last few years. The only problem is that names like these very soon begin to sound a little silly and "wannabe".
11. Foreign Names: consider using a foreign version of a name, e.g., Pedro, instead of Peter. Or try using a name from a completely different culture.
12. Nicknames: try using a nickname e.g. Angie, instead of Angela or Angelina. However, make sure the name is will pass the "age test" - see number 17 below.
13. Middle Names: a great way to accommodate individuality when naming your baby, is to combine a common first name with a unique second/middle name. The benefit of this is that your child can avoid embarrassment throughout his/her life by ignoring it of keeping it hidden.
14. Initials: when you have settled on some names, check that the initials aren't embarrassing. This is an easy trap to fall into and can lead to a lifetime of misery. "Zina Indigo" are may be nice sounding names for your lovely daughter, but make sure your surname doesn't begin with "T"!
15. First Name-Surname: check how the selected first name combines with the surname. Make sure the two names do not create some something recognizable, to prevent a lifetime of teasing. Also, check the rhythm of the two names; a different number of syllables in each name usually flows much better. Avoid rhyming the 2 names at all costs or your child will hate you forever!
16. The loudness test: try saying the name softly, at normal pitch and shouting it very loudly. You may be surprised at the results.
17. The age test: try to visualize your child with the name as a baby, as a teenager, as a young adult, a mature adult and as a senior citizen. A name can create completely different perceptions of the individual at separate stages of life.
18. The meaning: the final test of the name that you choose should be to check its meaning (if any). Don't leave your child open to getting a nasty surprise later in life.
Whatever name you decide, don't fall into the trap of self-indulgence. Remember, it's not about you, it's all about your child. Your grand design to celebrate the uniqueness of this new human being, may eventually lead to a lifelong, desperate desire for conformity and anonymity. Even Zowie Bowie eventually changed his name to "Joey"...
But wait a minute!
Remember that the unique baby name you choose will help define junior's life - how they are viewed and accepted - for many, many years. What sounds cute and original for a 5-year-old, may not sound so funky for a 15-year-old...and what about a 55-year old?
Time was when only celebrities could get away with unique baby names (Zowie Bowie, Dweezil and Moon Unit Zappa, etc), but in the modern world, individuality is more prized than ever before, and increasingly, this starts with our names. Great idea - but don't allow a flash of a self-indulgence to condemn your child to a lifetime of problems; it's reported that a Chinese couple named their child "Saddam Sars" to mark the current world events at the time of the birth! I just hope it means something nice in Mandarin, or Cantonese!
This probably wouldn't have happened in Germany, where names can only be registered if they recognizable, do not ridicule the child and are gender specific. Perhaps there is at least one Chinese child in the world, who will grow up wishing he/she were German!
So - assuming you are not German - what should you do if you want to create a unique baby name, without creating too many problems? Here are some tips and some warnings to make the process less painful:
1. Anagrams: try creating an anagram of an existing name.
2. Father and Mother: try using derivatives of one of the parents' names, or a combination of both. Alternatively, how does the mother's maiden name sound as a first name?
3. Telescoping: try dropping letters from another name or a word, until you get a nice-sounding name.
4. Spelling: an unusual spelling of a common name creates uniqueness. However, remember that your child will be condemned to a lifetime of "...that's David spelt D..A..Y..V..I..D..." conversations.
5. Pronunciation: another trick is to pronounce a common name in an unusual way. But this can also lead to a lifetime of corrections and explanations - as well as teasing and accusations of pretentiousness.
6. History: do some research into names that were popular in previous eras, but have become less so.
7. Family History: are there any unusual baby names that can be used to honor family members or ancestors? But beware family politics...
8. Nature: many names come from the natural world, particularly flowers (e.g. Rose) and it's a great source for unique baby names (e.g. Gwyneth Paltrow's daughter Apple).
9. Geography: another useful source of great names - grab an atlas and start searching. David and Victoria Beckham called their first son Brooklyn, which many people think is a cool-sounding name. However, it's reported that the choice was made because that's where conception took place. Hmmm, imagine a lifetime in which your name is a constant reminder of your parents having sex! Eeeuuuuww!!!
10. Celebrities: famous people with slightly unusual names are a common source of inspiration. There are lots of teenage "Kylie"s running around the UK since Kylie Minogue's arrival on the music scene at end of the '80's, and her recent resurgence, will have created a second wave of them. And I'm sure many little "Be'yonce"s have been popping up over the last few years. The only problem is that names like these very soon begin to sound a little silly and "wannabe".
11. Foreign Names: consider using a foreign version of a name, e.g., Pedro, instead of Peter. Or try using a name from a completely different culture.
12. Nicknames: try using a nickname e.g. Angie, instead of Angela or Angelina. However, make sure the name is will pass the "age test" - see number 17 below.
13. Middle Names: a great way to accommodate individuality when naming your baby, is to combine a common first name with a unique second/middle name. The benefit of this is that your child can avoid embarrassment throughout his/her life by ignoring it of keeping it hidden.
14. Initials: when you have settled on some names, check that the initials aren't embarrassing. This is an easy trap to fall into and can lead to a lifetime of misery. "Zina Indigo" are may be nice sounding names for your lovely daughter, but make sure your surname doesn't begin with "T"!
15. First Name-Surname: check how the selected first name combines with the surname. Make sure the two names do not create some something recognizable, to prevent a lifetime of teasing. Also, check the rhythm of the two names; a different number of syllables in each name usually flows much better. Avoid rhyming the 2 names at all costs or your child will hate you forever!
16. The loudness test: try saying the name softly, at normal pitch and shouting it very loudly. You may be surprised at the results.
17. The age test: try to visualize your child with the name as a baby, as a teenager, as a young adult, a mature adult and as a senior citizen. A name can create completely different perceptions of the individual at separate stages of life.
18. The meaning: the final test of the name that you choose should be to check its meaning (if any). Don't leave your child open to getting a nasty surprise later in life.
Whatever name you decide, don't fall into the trap of self-indulgence. Remember, it's not about you, it's all about your child. Your grand design to celebrate the uniqueness of this new human being, may eventually lead to a lifelong, desperate desire for conformity and anonymity. Even Zowie Bowie eventually changed his name to "Joey"...
Types of Baby Shower Invitations
Types of Baby Shower Invitations Planning a baby shower can be a fun but challenging task. One task crucial to many baby showers is picking the right baby shower invitations. Below are some ideas for baby shower invitations.
1) Themed Baby Shower Cards - Baby shower invitations cards are the most common way to invite guests to your special occasion. These cards come in a variety of shapes, sizes, and themes. Some printers will even print your own personalized text onto the card.
2) Candy Wrapper Birth Announcements - Candy wrappers are another popular way to announce a baby shower. The guest will receive a candy bar or other tasty treat and the wrapper will contain the information for the baby shower.
3) Invitation in a Bottle - The invitation in a bottle is a more expensive, but fancy baby shower invitation. A baby shower invitation card will be inserted into a plastic baby bottle. Colored paper and other goodies can also be inserted into the bottle before it is delivered to your guests.
4) Baby Shower Save the Date Magnets - A baby shower magnet with the date of the shower is another great way to invite your guests. When they receive the magnet, they can stick it on their refrigerator to remind them of the date of the shower.
5) Personalized Fortune Cookie Invitation - Yet another unique way to invite your guests is to have the invitation inside a personalized fortune cookie. Invite your friends to dinner and the fortune cookies will contain the surprise baby shower invitation to top off the evening.
1) Themed Baby Shower Cards - Baby shower invitations cards are the most common way to invite guests to your special occasion. These cards come in a variety of shapes, sizes, and themes. Some printers will even print your own personalized text onto the card.
2) Candy Wrapper Birth Announcements - Candy wrappers are another popular way to announce a baby shower. The guest will receive a candy bar or other tasty treat and the wrapper will contain the information for the baby shower.
3) Invitation in a Bottle - The invitation in a bottle is a more expensive, but fancy baby shower invitation. A baby shower invitation card will be inserted into a plastic baby bottle. Colored paper and other goodies can also be inserted into the bottle before it is delivered to your guests.
4) Baby Shower Save the Date Magnets - A baby shower magnet with the date of the shower is another great way to invite your guests. When they receive the magnet, they can stick it on their refrigerator to remind them of the date of the shower.
5) Personalized Fortune Cookie Invitation - Yet another unique way to invite your guests is to have the invitation inside a personalized fortune cookie. Invite your friends to dinner and the fortune cookies will contain the surprise baby shower invitation to top off the evening.
Trick or Treat -- Planning the Ultimate Halloween Party
Trick or Treat -- Planning the Ultimate Halloween Party (ARA) - What better way to celebrate the night of fright than to throw a Halloween party? Whether you're expecting mini-goblins and ghosts or thinking of hosting adult Elvira's and Frankenstein's, decorations, frightful food and ghoulish activities will set the right tone for a Spook-Fest fit for even the most menacing vampires.
The first step in planning your Halloween bash is to determine the theme. The theme will set the mood, determine the dress attire and influence the food you serve. Planning a movie-themed party is the most versatile and gives your guests the flexibility to dress as their favorite fright flick character. You can even incorporate your movie theme into your decorating. Borrow your friends' DVD players and have different Halloween movies playing from the timeless Hollywood horror classics of Alfred Hitchcock to the more modern scares like Scream. James Rocchi, film critic of online DVD rental service Netflix (http://www.netflix.com), suggests his five favorites to show.
* Frankenstein (1931) -- the Karloff classic
* Halloween (1978) -- retro-flavored slasher that launched a thousand imitators
* Invasion of the Body Snatchers (1978) -- a popular horror film classic
* Them! (1954) -- a giant insect monster movie with '50s camp and timeless scares
* Rosemary's Baby (1968) -- the urban-Satanism nightmare that still chills
For additional decorations, head to your local party store and pick up all your Halloween supplies including cobwebs, jack-o-lanterns, and skeletons and serving supplies like plates, napkins and cups. While you're at the store, pick-up a couple of CDs that you can play while you greet your guests the night of your party. Opt to skip the lights and illuminate your house with slow burning or long lasting candles.
When planning your party menu, consider the costumes your guests might be wearing and what will be easy for the dressed-up to eat and whether you want to prepare the food, have your party catered or have your guests each bring a dish. You can feature frightful hors d' oeuvres such as "deviled eyeballs" -- deviled eggs topped with a slice of black or green olive and a main course of "guts and eyeballs" (your own famous spaghetti and meatballs). For dessert, serve orange and black themed cakes, cookies, and other sweets.
If you've invited the neighbors, top the night off with an outside werewolf howling or screaming contest. Award the winners with a gift subscription to Netflix so they can host next year's Halloween party.
For the Kids
If you are hosting a party for kids or kids will be invited to the adult party, you may want to serve food that they will find fun and provide activities that are age appropriate. Since kids love to dress up, host a costume contest. Have plenty of prizes on hand so every child wins in a different costume category. If your party is on Halloween night, take the kids out to trick-or-treat before the adults settle in for their own party.
Kids love gross Halloween treats. You can turn chicken strips into witch's fingers by adding dagger-like fingernails made of pimientos and for dessert, serve up mud cups: chocolate pudding topped with crushed Oreo cookies and gummy worms.
Provide additional entertainment with Halloween movies. For the kids, Rocchi recommends "It's the Great Pumpkin, Charlie Brown;" "SpongeBob SquarePants: Halloween;" and "The Worst Witch: A Mean Halloween." Netflix makes getting movies for your party simple. Forgo a last minute dash to the video store, only to find your Halloween favorites already rented. With more than 15,000 titles to choose from, you're sure to find just the right ones to set the Halloween mood.
Courtesy of ARA Content
SIDEBAR:
Looking for more inspiration? Here are some other suggestions from film critic James Rocchi.
Top renting horror movies (of a supernatural bent)
The Others
The Ring
Ghost Ship
The Sixth Sense: Special Edition
What Lies Beneath: Special Edition
The Mummy Returns
Final Destination
Sleepy Hollow
13 Ghosts
The Exorcist, both the original and restored version
The first step in planning your Halloween bash is to determine the theme. The theme will set the mood, determine the dress attire and influence the food you serve. Planning a movie-themed party is the most versatile and gives your guests the flexibility to dress as their favorite fright flick character. You can even incorporate your movie theme into your decorating. Borrow your friends' DVD players and have different Halloween movies playing from the timeless Hollywood horror classics of Alfred Hitchcock to the more modern scares like Scream. James Rocchi, film critic of online DVD rental service Netflix (http://www.netflix.com), suggests his five favorites to show.
* Frankenstein (1931) -- the Karloff classic
* Halloween (1978) -- retro-flavored slasher that launched a thousand imitators
* Invasion of the Body Snatchers (1978) -- a popular horror film classic
* Them! (1954) -- a giant insect monster movie with '50s camp and timeless scares
* Rosemary's Baby (1968) -- the urban-Satanism nightmare that still chills
For additional decorations, head to your local party store and pick up all your Halloween supplies including cobwebs, jack-o-lanterns, and skeletons and serving supplies like plates, napkins and cups. While you're at the store, pick-up a couple of CDs that you can play while you greet your guests the night of your party. Opt to skip the lights and illuminate your house with slow burning or long lasting candles.
When planning your party menu, consider the costumes your guests might be wearing and what will be easy for the dressed-up to eat and whether you want to prepare the food, have your party catered or have your guests each bring a dish. You can feature frightful hors d' oeuvres such as "deviled eyeballs" -- deviled eggs topped with a slice of black or green olive and a main course of "guts and eyeballs" (your own famous spaghetti and meatballs). For dessert, serve orange and black themed cakes, cookies, and other sweets.
If you've invited the neighbors, top the night off with an outside werewolf howling or screaming contest. Award the winners with a gift subscription to Netflix so they can host next year's Halloween party.
For the Kids
If you are hosting a party for kids or kids will be invited to the adult party, you may want to serve food that they will find fun and provide activities that are age appropriate. Since kids love to dress up, host a costume contest. Have plenty of prizes on hand so every child wins in a different costume category. If your party is on Halloween night, take the kids out to trick-or-treat before the adults settle in for their own party.
Kids love gross Halloween treats. You can turn chicken strips into witch's fingers by adding dagger-like fingernails made of pimientos and for dessert, serve up mud cups: chocolate pudding topped with crushed Oreo cookies and gummy worms.
Provide additional entertainment with Halloween movies. For the kids, Rocchi recommends "It's the Great Pumpkin, Charlie Brown;" "SpongeBob SquarePants: Halloween;" and "The Worst Witch: A Mean Halloween." Netflix makes getting movies for your party simple. Forgo a last minute dash to the video store, only to find your Halloween favorites already rented. With more than 15,000 titles to choose from, you're sure to find just the right ones to set the Halloween mood.
Courtesy of ARA Content
SIDEBAR:
Looking for more inspiration? Here are some other suggestions from film critic James Rocchi.
Top renting horror movies (of a supernatural bent)
The Others
The Ring
Ghost Ship
The Sixth Sense: Special Edition
What Lies Beneath: Special Edition
The Mummy Returns
Final Destination
Sleepy Hollow
13 Ghosts
The Exorcist, both the original and restored version
Top Ten Money Saving Wedding Tips
Top Ten Money Saving Wedding Tips 1. Plan your wedding ceremony and reception in the morning, on a Friday or Sunday night and consider the winter months for all these times and dates will be less expensive.
2. Try to keep your guest list minimal.
3. Make your own veil. You'll find that most craft stores sell how-to books and even supplies on designing your own veil, which can save you hundreds of dollars.
4. Shop online for your wedding dress. Go to a nearby bridal shop and try on dresses so you know they fit, and once you find some you like, search for them online, you'll most likely find them, and for much less.
5. Supply your own alcohol for the wedding if you can, you'll be sure to save.
6. Opt to not have a dinner reception. Choose to have a brunch, cocktail or dessert party instead.
7. Use silk flowers. Silk flowers are beautiful, look real, and are always less than real flowers. Better yet, you can even rent them.
8. When decorating, use more greenery and baby's breath, with fewer flowers to cut costs but still make the setting look fulfilled.
9. Create your own invitations. You can easily create a design with use of a computer and software programs available for this task, as well as purchasing your own wedding desktop publishing paper.
10. Consider using local universities qualified but inexpensive musicians, photographers, and videographers. Professors can point you in the right direction to finding the best students in the program.
2. Try to keep your guest list minimal.
3. Make your own veil. You'll find that most craft stores sell how-to books and even supplies on designing your own veil, which can save you hundreds of dollars.
4. Shop online for your wedding dress. Go to a nearby bridal shop and try on dresses so you know they fit, and once you find some you like, search for them online, you'll most likely find them, and for much less.
5. Supply your own alcohol for the wedding if you can, you'll be sure to save.
6. Opt to not have a dinner reception. Choose to have a brunch, cocktail or dessert party instead.
7. Use silk flowers. Silk flowers are beautiful, look real, and are always less than real flowers. Better yet, you can even rent them.
8. When decorating, use more greenery and baby's breath, with fewer flowers to cut costs but still make the setting look fulfilled.
9. Create your own invitations. You can easily create a design with use of a computer and software programs available for this task, as well as purchasing your own wedding desktop publishing paper.
10. Consider using local universities qualified but inexpensive musicians, photographers, and videographers. Professors can point you in the right direction to finding the best students in the program.
Top 2 Tips for Geting That Perfect Gift
Top 2 Tips for Geting That Perfect Gift Top 2 Tips for Getting that Perfect Gift!
So there you are, it's that time again. It's another occasion
where you need get a gift for someone that already has
everything. You know, like how many candles can I get her? Or
how many times can I keep giving them a bottle of wine? We all
have been there and beat our heads against the wall to try and
figure out what do I give this time. Whether it's the dreaded
baby shower, or house warming, or the even usual birthday
celebration, you are stuck with the daunted task of giving a
gift that will show them what you meant to them.
Sometimes it can be quite annoying and frustrating. We all go
through the same routine. Where do we head first? We head to
the mall and walk around aimlessly hoping that the perfect gift
will just pop out and hit us on the head. Sadly, this never
happens and we come home with a card and some hokey gift
package.
Gives me chills just thinking about it. Then we start thinking
of excuses of why we cannot attend the event. Let's not even get
into that, it can get quite amusing of the things we can come up
with.
Well, I hope the following tips can help you get through this
situation and allow you to enjoy all celebrations of life and
not have to worry about what to get.
Thoughtfulness
Number one thing to do is know what the person likes. If you
can figure this out, you are home free. Whether its golf,
cooking, or even some TV show, you are set. This will show the
person you know them well and have put some great care and
thoughtfulness in picking out their gift.
Uniqueness
So you figured out what they like. Great, now you need to be
unique. Yes, uniqueness is the key to that perfect gift. Well
what makes a gift unique? The answer if personalization! Yes,
you can take any normal gift and make it unique by personalizing
it. The person could have many picture frames, but do they have
one with a special photo that you have of them? Or do they have
a frame that has inscribed on it their name? You get what I
mean? You can pretty much take a simple gift and take it to the
next level just by adding that extra touch. There are many
places now that sell common gifts and can personalize them to
your needs.
So the next time you're thinking "I just don't know what to get
him/her", go for a thoughtful and unique gift and make it
personalized!
So there you are, it's that time again. It's another occasion
where you need get a gift for someone that already has
everything. You know, like how many candles can I get her? Or
how many times can I keep giving them a bottle of wine? We all
have been there and beat our heads against the wall to try and
figure out what do I give this time. Whether it's the dreaded
baby shower, or house warming, or the even usual birthday
celebration, you are stuck with the daunted task of giving a
gift that will show them what you meant to them.
Sometimes it can be quite annoying and frustrating. We all go
through the same routine. Where do we head first? We head to
the mall and walk around aimlessly hoping that the perfect gift
will just pop out and hit us on the head. Sadly, this never
happens and we come home with a card and some hokey gift
package.
Gives me chills just thinking about it. Then we start thinking
of excuses of why we cannot attend the event. Let's not even get
into that, it can get quite amusing of the things we can come up
with.
Well, I hope the following tips can help you get through this
situation and allow you to enjoy all celebrations of life and
not have to worry about what to get.
Thoughtfulness
Number one thing to do is know what the person likes. If you
can figure this out, you are home free. Whether its golf,
cooking, or even some TV show, you are set. This will show the
person you know them well and have put some great care and
thoughtfulness in picking out their gift.
Uniqueness
So you figured out what they like. Great, now you need to be
unique. Yes, uniqueness is the key to that perfect gift. Well
what makes a gift unique? The answer if personalization! Yes,
you can take any normal gift and make it unique by personalizing
it. The person could have many picture frames, but do they have
one with a special photo that you have of them? Or do they have
a frame that has inscribed on it their name? You get what I
mean? You can pretty much take a simple gift and take it to the
next level just by adding that extra touch. There are many
places now that sell common gifts and can personalize them to
your needs.
So the next time you're thinking "I just don't know what to get
him/her", go for a thoughtful and unique gift and make it
personalized!
Top 10 mistakes when buying a car seat
Top 10 mistakes when buying a car seat
There is no doubt that a good quality car seat is one of the most important purchases the parent of an infant or toddler can make. A properly installed car seat can be a real life saver in a crash. In addition, a car seat can keep the baby comfortable and happy on those long road trips.
Unfortunately, there are some common mistakes parents make when buying these important safety items. Listed below are some of the most frequently seen mistakes made when buying and installing a car seat.
1.Buying a car seat that is difficult to install - Proper installation is the most important part of buying a good car seat. Inspections of car seats reveal that the majority of car seats are installed improperly. Car seats that come with incomplete or poorly worded instructions, or those that are overly complicated to install, can be dangerous.
2.Buying a car seat that does not properly fit your vehicle. Most car seats are designed to fit most models of newer cars, but owners of older or more exotic cars may have problems fitting car seats properly. If you are unsure if the seat you chose will fit your car, be sure to check with the auto dealer.
3.Not looking for the seal of the Federal Motor Vehicle Safety Standard. Parents should only buy car seats that meet or exceed this federal standard.
4.Buying a car seat that is too small for your baby - All car seats carry a maximum height and weight rating. Be sure to buy a car seat that provide room to grow.
5.Choosing a car seat that is not compatible with your car's seat belt. Not all car seats are compatible with all styles of seat belts. If you are unsure what type of car seat you need, be sure to consult with the manufacturer.
6.Not ensuring that the car seat fits the baby properly. Particularly with larger car seats, a small baby could accidentally slip out of the seat. It is important that infants one year of age and younger ride only in a rear facing car seat. Only after the baby is older than one year and weighs between 20 or 40 pounds should he or she be switched to a front facing seat.
7.Not checking for safety recalls. There are a number of safety recalls on car seats every year, and it is important to check for recalls on the model car seat you are considering.
8.Not choosing the fabric carefully - It is important to choose a fabric that is machine washable. In addition, a cloth upholstered seat is often more comfortable for the baby.
9.Not buying a car seat as part of a travel system - It is possible to buy a car seat that is part of a three part travel system. That means that the car seat, infant carrier and stroller are all integrated into one handy unit. This combination is often a more convenient and cost effective solution than buying the items separately.
10.Buying a car seat that is poorly made - Poor construction may be the biggest problem with some car seats. Be sure to check the quality of the car seat, watching especially for any sharp edges or loose parts.
There is no doubt that a good quality car seat is one of the most important purchases the parent of an infant or toddler can make. A properly installed car seat can be a real life saver in a crash. In addition, a car seat can keep the baby comfortable and happy on those long road trips.
Unfortunately, there are some common mistakes parents make when buying these important safety items. Listed below are some of the most frequently seen mistakes made when buying and installing a car seat.
1.Buying a car seat that is difficult to install - Proper installation is the most important part of buying a good car seat. Inspections of car seats reveal that the majority of car seats are installed improperly. Car seats that come with incomplete or poorly worded instructions, or those that are overly complicated to install, can be dangerous.
2.Buying a car seat that does not properly fit your vehicle. Most car seats are designed to fit most models of newer cars, but owners of older or more exotic cars may have problems fitting car seats properly. If you are unsure if the seat you chose will fit your car, be sure to check with the auto dealer.
3.Not looking for the seal of the Federal Motor Vehicle Safety Standard. Parents should only buy car seats that meet or exceed this federal standard.
4.Buying a car seat that is too small for your baby - All car seats carry a maximum height and weight rating. Be sure to buy a car seat that provide room to grow.
5.Choosing a car seat that is not compatible with your car's seat belt. Not all car seats are compatible with all styles of seat belts. If you are unsure what type of car seat you need, be sure to consult with the manufacturer.
6.Not ensuring that the car seat fits the baby properly. Particularly with larger car seats, a small baby could accidentally slip out of the seat. It is important that infants one year of age and younger ride only in a rear facing car seat. Only after the baby is older than one year and weighs between 20 or 40 pounds should he or she be switched to a front facing seat.
7.Not checking for safety recalls. There are a number of safety recalls on car seats every year, and it is important to check for recalls on the model car seat you are considering.
8.Not choosing the fabric carefully - It is important to choose a fabric that is machine washable. In addition, a cloth upholstered seat is often more comfortable for the baby.
9.Not buying a car seat as part of a travel system - It is possible to buy a car seat that is part of a three part travel system. That means that the car seat, infant carrier and stroller are all integrated into one handy unit. This combination is often a more convenient and cost effective solution than buying the items separately.
10.Buying a car seat that is poorly made - Poor construction may be the biggest problem with some car seats. Be sure to check the quality of the car seat, watching especially for any sharp edges or loose parts.
To Love Forever
To Love Forever Some time ago we were leading a college seminar for sexually sophisticated, exuberant and articulate young couples from a local church when James, one of the husbands, said: Nancy and I have long since learned how to insert Tab A into Slot B, so we don't need a sex manual. We know all about adequate foreplay for women, exotic positions, and multiple orgasms. We love our nights of romance but we now must learn how to make our marriage worth keeping together when we are not making love.
Emotionally healthy men and women almost always share their lives with lovers whose happiness is crucial to their own fulfillment -- even if they failed to understand the reciprocal nature of mutual satisfaction while they were young. In our youthful years we may be so filled with such intense sexual desires that we forget it really does take two to tango successfully for any length of time. If either lover feels deprived, the music soon loses its ability to charm us. As we learn to love a person deeply, we want both to be personally satisfied -- while also becoming a pleasing lover. Our sexual pleasure remains second rate unless the lover becomes a full partner in the intimacy. Of course, some neurotic persons use sex in a power play for ego benefits that have little to do with love. We insist -- all psychospiritually healthy women and men want to please the sweetheart with whom they share physical, emotional, and spiritual intimacy. Anything less is selfishness -- is prima facia evidence that one is still an emotional adolescent, grasping what he or she can in a short term relationship. Sexual selfishness and the potential for abuse that follows is always the result of one's serious emotional and spiritual failures.
Despite the universal need for loving relationships, one marriage out of two fails, with a major cause of divorce being serious sexual disappointment caused by some form of narcissism -- satiation or some kind of neurotic power struggle within the relationship. Many of the marriages which survive are such emotional and sexual disasters that the partners are left with a terrible sense of disappointment about the entire affair. Actually, comparatively few men and women actually remain lovers for life with the joy that a sound relationship guarantees. It is obvious that many couples have not mastered the attitudes, activities and relationships needed to make love permanent. We, Roberta and Jard, realize that we have done pretty well -- we are still sharing our love for one other and enjoying our erotic intimacy after half a century of love and marriage. We have thought much about all this and have come to the delightful conclusion -- We are not yet through! Despite all odds and some glaring mistakes along the way, we have managed to remain lovers because we understand some key factors about relationships:
To begin with:
WOMEN AND MEN REALLY NEED EACH OTHER FOR LOVE TO PROSPER.
SEXUAL AROUSAL AND PLEASURE IS A NORMAL STATE FOR LOVERS.
SATISACTION INCREASES EXPONENTIALLY AS WE MATURE TOGETHER.
These are attainable ideals that unfortunately, because of narcissism and nihilism, can be crippled enough to destry relationships. However, since the need for love and intimacy does not end with conflict and unhappiness -- even after separation and divorce, most persons with failed marriages usually seek someone new with whom to share romance. We have learned how vital it is to have a loving partner who cares deeply about us; who eagerly and joyfully joins their body, mind and spirit to our own. Unfortunately, some people continue looking for a perfect partner rather than learning how to become a better lover. Nevertheless, most second marriages succeed well enough to be held together. Couples, the second time around, usually have more realistic expectations and attitudes -- can abandon the youthful selfishness that comes between themselves and their lovers, and accept the partial loaf of a sound relationship if not a grand romance..
Actually, many marriages fail because the institutions that are supposed to help men and women live together without too much conflict, fail at their tasks. For example, many people tell us that the church must accept a full share of the responsibility for the failure of many relationships. Its emphasis on archaic rules, the condemnation of spontaneous sexuality made possible through birth control, and reluctance to accept lovemaking as a spiritual relationship in and of itself, long after science has separated sex from child bearing, has been crippling to a great many marriages. Too many reactionary clergymen have simply not come to grips with the realities of life and love since neurotic medieval myths and superstitions about sexuality were accepted as basic religious morality.
Even today in most fundamental and orthodox religious denominations, morality is connected almost entirely to sexuality. In much of the right wing church you can engage in virtually any kind of racism or sexism -- condemning minorities and manipulating women -- so long as you profess to have been born again and do not commit adultery with your neighbor's child or spouse. Or at least, don't get caught committing adultery! We find such practices not only a simplistic view of spirituality but really a mockery of faith, hope and love within the Judao/Christian and the Islamic traditions.
Our educational institutions have done just as poorly, for they occasionally teach sexual mechanics and techniques while ignoring the need for spiritual love which is vital to keeping a relationship alive and well, filled with sexual satisfaction and make the sweethearts mutually supportive over the years. Few of the sex classes we see go beyond simply teaching how to be sexually effective, how as James said, to insert tab A into slot B. Now, with most of the emphasis on how to have a glorious orgasm (or half a dozen of them), it's as though love, acceptance and mutual support have become sexual taboos. Not enough attention is paid to those things that make intimacy satisfying throughout life, to keep one's relationship permanent. The vast majority of sexual self-help books have failed to make this vital point clear since they are often based on several distorted assumptions about life and love. Usually missing from such books is the understanding that human are always subjective beings with deep spiritual needs that must be satisfied or else life turns sour. Life must become meaningful rather than just successful if we hope to live with satisfaction. Our needs and motivates go beyond the physical and psychological levels of personality to the philosophical. As a result, many books that don't consider the psychospiritual aspects of life fail to help the users all that much.
Our book, LOVERS FOR LIFE is based on the principle of honest partnership and mutual acceptance. We simply cannot find lasting satisfaction except by being truthful. It is also based on the belief that we all need to live with spiritual values, positive attitudes, high expectations, mature beliefs and responsible choices. Of course, few couples begin this way -- we must learn how to survive together while we mature as real persons. The myth that men and women are so different that misunderstanding and conflict are inevitable is just that -- a myth. Conflicts arise when we relate as lovers from the immature or neurotic needs of adolescence, when we fail to understand personality patterns, when we are pushed from our comfort zones, and when we behave in selfish ways that cause resentment. Then lovers become adversaries who are struggling to win power, prestige pleasure and possessions without regard for the other person's needs. Dissatisfying lovemaking virtually always occurs because one or both of the lovers behave narcissistically.
Because sexuality and love-making is so compelling in and of itself -- so important to normal, well adjusted women and men, we sometimes fail to realize that consistent sexual satisfaction is always the result of having a mutually supportive relationship rather than the cause of a good marriage. Because of the prominence of the pleasure principle, many people still put that cart before the horse. Many and many a person in counselling tells us that they cannot understand why they are having so many problems when the sex is still good. Of course it is -- it is the only thing still holding them together -- with so many other problems both are determined to make something work well. We find that fearful women who remain with brutal, battering men often engage in wild lovemaking with their cruel abusers, doing everything the men want, trying to make something, anything, satisfying in the relationship. But it isn't a mutual connection -- such a man is very much the tyrant she is frantically trying to please in the only way she can share intimacy with him. This seldom lasts long when everything else good has collapsed. And unless a woman feels trapped, unable to take care of herself, with no one to turn to for deliverance, many women soon decide that sexual satisfaction purchased at such a price is too expensive in the scheme of life. They move on.
Others make the same mistake our sexually frustrated and often neurotic Victorian ancestors did as they tried hard to turn love into a sexless, platonic relationship. No one personifies this more clearly than Mother Lee and the Shaker sect of Christians who came out of England during the Victorian era. We understand why this happened and why groups like the Shakers became celibate; the men and women living within the same colonies but in separate dorms and never sharing sexual love. Sexual diseases were rampant in Victorian England and America at the time. About one person in five had a serious venereal disease at the time of our Civil War and there were no cures. The young Confederate general A P Hill contacted gonorrhea as a West Point cadet and suffered from it the rest of his life until he died in his late thirties. In addition, because they had no reliable birth control methods many wives were pregnant or nursing almost all the time. Married women were baby making machines and every major religious denomination in England and America in 1900 still insisted that birth control was a sin against God and humanity. It still in in the Roman Catholic church. Birth control was forbidden because primitive societies needed a constant flow of strong, young persons to do all the scut work needed to keep life running smoothly. Such churches still confuse social traditions with spirituality as they always have. As late as 1900, each childbirth was a trip down into the valley of the shadow of death for every woman. The childbirth death of great many women was an acceptable trade-off with the need for more workers for the farms and companies of the time. Childbed fever due to contaminated bed clothing was so virulent that most women had their wills written before giving birth.
Roberta's maternal grandfather, an undeniably devout Methodist preacher, had seven children with his first wife before she died after the final birth and then had twelve more kids with his second wife before she also died in childbirth. Women had no rights -- they could not refuse their randy husbands access to their bodies even if another pregnancy would be fatal. Their marriage dowry was given to their husbands, they could seldom work outside the home and if they did, the law required them to surrender their earnings to their husbands every payday. Actually, they were treated as brood mares as Abigail Smith Adams wrote and wrote again to her husband Samuel Adams when he was helping form the United States government. She urged him over and over to give women some civil rights but he was unable to persuade the southern contingent of politicians to treat women fairly. It took more than a hundred years for women to gain the vote and some simple rights to manage their own lives. With disease and death a common outcome of a sexual relationship, and with a complete loss of freedom from entering into a marriage, Roberta says she can certainly understand why Mother Lee founded her Shaker colonies. The arrangement was so women could care for themselves -- by themselves -- and with the celibate companionship of those men who were willing to treat them decently. Of course, Jard also understands why the Shakers prospered during that period and failed when women won some freedoms, learned to plan their babies and could avoid venereal disease through modern medicines. The lives of women became so much better during the 20th century that few needed to abandon marriage and children in order to become real persons. Thus the Shaker colonies vanished as society changed drastically.
Men and women who have lovingly committed their lives to each other have every physical, psychological and spiritual reason to develop deeply satisfying sexual relations as a positive aspect of life. Each of us needs a loving soul with whom to share the many responsibilities and rewards of life, to labor with during the day and to fill the nights with the magic of a passion that doesn't fade but becomes more mature and fulfilling as we enfold one another with kisses and caresses We believe that anyone who teaches otherwise, who wants to ration a couple's sexuality to conception, whether in the church or out, is emotionally crippled and wants others to suffer with him rather than mature in the physical aspects of love. The very concept of life-long celibacy and sexual deprivation is a wicked sociopath requirement laid on couples by medieval minded clergy who are trapped by their sexist theology. Which is why ninety percent of English speaking Catholic women of child bearing age defy their clergy to practice proscribed forms of birth control. And why almost seventy percent of Catholic priests from African, Asian and Latin American nations are rearing families with secret wives or with women with whom they are in permanent sexual relationships. To end this practice of love and affection would destroy the Catholic leadership of most nations south of the equator.
Fortunately, even a when person has been crippled and confused by religious, political or cultural myths about the role sexual relationships play in life, human resilience is so great that he or she can learn how to live a purposeful life, one leading to happiness and permanence in relationships. No one is doomed to unhappiness in a partnership unless he or she accepts someone's manipulation of himself. Ridding oneself of distorted symptoms and selfish behaviors can help pave the way toward maturity and fulfillment.
We, Roberta and Jard -- have lived together for almost half a century. We reared three kids and even our grandkids have kids now and we still love each other dearly. We would like to be able to report to you that we had a storybook romance and marriage: We would like to, but alas, we cannot. To start with, Roberta certainly did not get a Prince Charming in Jard. He is a stubborn, willful man who has gone through life doing precisely what he wanted to do. Of course, Roberta wasn't a Fairy Princess -- at times the sparks flew. They still do! But, we started life even, both having naive attitudes about living together. She assumed Jard would be like her father, and he thought Roberta would be like his mother. Don't all young couples make that mistake? We soon learned how wrong that was but above all we shared a strong religious faith that helped us!
At one time we were even like two veteran riflemen in combat. One soldier was from the Louisiana marsh country while the other was from the mountains of Colorado. They had little in common but survival, they didn't understand each other, and they would not have even known each other but for the fact that they were in the Army at the same time. However, they have saved each other's life so often that each has forgotten how to survive without the partner. One kicks in the door and the other throws in the grenade. Without a great deal of deliberation! We have even moved past that and now are fairly tolerant and understanding. The repeated grinding of two dominant personalities, although it created friction and sparks on many occasions, has abraded a pretty good fit to our marriage. Sexual pleasure and psychospiritual intimacy are still vital parts of our ivies, and we recommend them highly to everyone (although we realize that sexual satisfaction can exist only as a part of our total relationship). We are fortunate that we have kept our sexual relationship alive and satisfying -- despite the myth that sex is for the young. I suppose many in the reactionary church who would limit sex to conception and childbirth consider us a dirty old couple -- but you can imagine how little time we spend worrying about their neuroticism! Love is a constant source of rejuvenation for our life together.
In LOVERS FOR LIFE we have included projects and processes for your use. They have proved very valuable for us and for couples in our seminars. In the beginning, using them may make you feel as awkward as giving a speech or singing a solo for the first time. They will become familiar with use, however, and will help you develop a mutually supportive partnership that remains pleasurable and permanent. Use them well to strengthen you mutual concern and self-transcendence; for they are tools with which to build greater understanding. Even if boredom and desperation have set in, these methods have the power to revitalize a relationship and make it worth keeping -- even when you are not making love at the time. May God bless your attempts to grow toward happiness and fulfillment, for all of your life!
SAMPLE SELF-FOCUS
WHY DO YOU SUPPOSE OUR VICTORIAN ANCESTORS WERE SO DETERMINED TO KEEP WOMEN SUBSERVIENT TO MEN -- EVEN TO THOSE WHO WERE ABUSIVE AND SOMETIMES MURDEROUS?
WHY DO YOU THINK MANY MEN STILL ASSUME THAT THEY OWN THE WOMEN IN THEIR LIVES -- THAT IF THEY CANNOT CONTROL A WOMAN, THEN NO OTHER MAN SHOULD LOVE HER?
SAMPLE PROJECT BASIC ASSUMPTIONS
Discuss with a friend or write a short paragraph or two or three sentences on what the following could mean to you.
MEN AND WOMEN REALLY DO NEED EACH OTHER FOR LOVE TO PROSPER.
SEXUAL PLEASURE AND SATISFACTION IS A SOUND ASPECT OF LOVE.
ONLY BY MATURING TOGETHER CAN LOVE BECOME DEEPLY FULFILLING.
We wish you the very best as you make your life meaningful and fill it with love.
Emotionally healthy men and women almost always share their lives with lovers whose happiness is crucial to their own fulfillment -- even if they failed to understand the reciprocal nature of mutual satisfaction while they were young. In our youthful years we may be so filled with such intense sexual desires that we forget it really does take two to tango successfully for any length of time. If either lover feels deprived, the music soon loses its ability to charm us. As we learn to love a person deeply, we want both to be personally satisfied -- while also becoming a pleasing lover. Our sexual pleasure remains second rate unless the lover becomes a full partner in the intimacy. Of course, some neurotic persons use sex in a power play for ego benefits that have little to do with love. We insist -- all psychospiritually healthy women and men want to please the sweetheart with whom they share physical, emotional, and spiritual intimacy. Anything less is selfishness -- is prima facia evidence that one is still an emotional adolescent, grasping what he or she can in a short term relationship. Sexual selfishness and the potential for abuse that follows is always the result of one's serious emotional and spiritual failures.
Despite the universal need for loving relationships, one marriage out of two fails, with a major cause of divorce being serious sexual disappointment caused by some form of narcissism -- satiation or some kind of neurotic power struggle within the relationship. Many of the marriages which survive are such emotional and sexual disasters that the partners are left with a terrible sense of disappointment about the entire affair. Actually, comparatively few men and women actually remain lovers for life with the joy that a sound relationship guarantees. It is obvious that many couples have not mastered the attitudes, activities and relationships needed to make love permanent. We, Roberta and Jard, realize that we have done pretty well -- we are still sharing our love for one other and enjoying our erotic intimacy after half a century of love and marriage. We have thought much about all this and have come to the delightful conclusion -- We are not yet through! Despite all odds and some glaring mistakes along the way, we have managed to remain lovers because we understand some key factors about relationships:
To begin with:
WOMEN AND MEN REALLY NEED EACH OTHER FOR LOVE TO PROSPER.
SEXUAL AROUSAL AND PLEASURE IS A NORMAL STATE FOR LOVERS.
SATISACTION INCREASES EXPONENTIALLY AS WE MATURE TOGETHER.
These are attainable ideals that unfortunately, because of narcissism and nihilism, can be crippled enough to destry relationships. However, since the need for love and intimacy does not end with conflict and unhappiness -- even after separation and divorce, most persons with failed marriages usually seek someone new with whom to share romance. We have learned how vital it is to have a loving partner who cares deeply about us; who eagerly and joyfully joins their body, mind and spirit to our own. Unfortunately, some people continue looking for a perfect partner rather than learning how to become a better lover. Nevertheless, most second marriages succeed well enough to be held together. Couples, the second time around, usually have more realistic expectations and attitudes -- can abandon the youthful selfishness that comes between themselves and their lovers, and accept the partial loaf of a sound relationship if not a grand romance..
Actually, many marriages fail because the institutions that are supposed to help men and women live together without too much conflict, fail at their tasks. For example, many people tell us that the church must accept a full share of the responsibility for the failure of many relationships. Its emphasis on archaic rules, the condemnation of spontaneous sexuality made possible through birth control, and reluctance to accept lovemaking as a spiritual relationship in and of itself, long after science has separated sex from child bearing, has been crippling to a great many marriages. Too many reactionary clergymen have simply not come to grips with the realities of life and love since neurotic medieval myths and superstitions about sexuality were accepted as basic religious morality.
Even today in most fundamental and orthodox religious denominations, morality is connected almost entirely to sexuality. In much of the right wing church you can engage in virtually any kind of racism or sexism -- condemning minorities and manipulating women -- so long as you profess to have been born again and do not commit adultery with your neighbor's child or spouse. Or at least, don't get caught committing adultery! We find such practices not only a simplistic view of spirituality but really a mockery of faith, hope and love within the Judao/Christian and the Islamic traditions.
Our educational institutions have done just as poorly, for they occasionally teach sexual mechanics and techniques while ignoring the need for spiritual love which is vital to keeping a relationship alive and well, filled with sexual satisfaction and make the sweethearts mutually supportive over the years. Few of the sex classes we see go beyond simply teaching how to be sexually effective, how as James said, to insert tab A into slot B. Now, with most of the emphasis on how to have a glorious orgasm (or half a dozen of them), it's as though love, acceptance and mutual support have become sexual taboos. Not enough attention is paid to those things that make intimacy satisfying throughout life, to keep one's relationship permanent. The vast majority of sexual self-help books have failed to make this vital point clear since they are often based on several distorted assumptions about life and love. Usually missing from such books is the understanding that human are always subjective beings with deep spiritual needs that must be satisfied or else life turns sour. Life must become meaningful rather than just successful if we hope to live with satisfaction. Our needs and motivates go beyond the physical and psychological levels of personality to the philosophical. As a result, many books that don't consider the psychospiritual aspects of life fail to help the users all that much.
Our book, LOVERS FOR LIFE is based on the principle of honest partnership and mutual acceptance. We simply cannot find lasting satisfaction except by being truthful. It is also based on the belief that we all need to live with spiritual values, positive attitudes, high expectations, mature beliefs and responsible choices. Of course, few couples begin this way -- we must learn how to survive together while we mature as real persons. The myth that men and women are so different that misunderstanding and conflict are inevitable is just that -- a myth. Conflicts arise when we relate as lovers from the immature or neurotic needs of adolescence, when we fail to understand personality patterns, when we are pushed from our comfort zones, and when we behave in selfish ways that cause resentment. Then lovers become adversaries who are struggling to win power, prestige pleasure and possessions without regard for the other person's needs. Dissatisfying lovemaking virtually always occurs because one or both of the lovers behave narcissistically.
Because sexuality and love-making is so compelling in and of itself -- so important to normal, well adjusted women and men, we sometimes fail to realize that consistent sexual satisfaction is always the result of having a mutually supportive relationship rather than the cause of a good marriage. Because of the prominence of the pleasure principle, many people still put that cart before the horse. Many and many a person in counselling tells us that they cannot understand why they are having so many problems when the sex is still good. Of course it is -- it is the only thing still holding them together -- with so many other problems both are determined to make something work well. We find that fearful women who remain with brutal, battering men often engage in wild lovemaking with their cruel abusers, doing everything the men want, trying to make something, anything, satisfying in the relationship. But it isn't a mutual connection -- such a man is very much the tyrant she is frantically trying to please in the only way she can share intimacy with him. This seldom lasts long when everything else good has collapsed. And unless a woman feels trapped, unable to take care of herself, with no one to turn to for deliverance, many women soon decide that sexual satisfaction purchased at such a price is too expensive in the scheme of life. They move on.
Others make the same mistake our sexually frustrated and often neurotic Victorian ancestors did as they tried hard to turn love into a sexless, platonic relationship. No one personifies this more clearly than Mother Lee and the Shaker sect of Christians who came out of England during the Victorian era. We understand why this happened and why groups like the Shakers became celibate; the men and women living within the same colonies but in separate dorms and never sharing sexual love. Sexual diseases were rampant in Victorian England and America at the time. About one person in five had a serious venereal disease at the time of our Civil War and there were no cures. The young Confederate general A P Hill contacted gonorrhea as a West Point cadet and suffered from it the rest of his life until he died in his late thirties. In addition, because they had no reliable birth control methods many wives were pregnant or nursing almost all the time. Married women were baby making machines and every major religious denomination in England and America in 1900 still insisted that birth control was a sin against God and humanity. It still in in the Roman Catholic church. Birth control was forbidden because primitive societies needed a constant flow of strong, young persons to do all the scut work needed to keep life running smoothly. Such churches still confuse social traditions with spirituality as they always have. As late as 1900, each childbirth was a trip down into the valley of the shadow of death for every woman. The childbirth death of great many women was an acceptable trade-off with the need for more workers for the farms and companies of the time. Childbed fever due to contaminated bed clothing was so virulent that most women had their wills written before giving birth.
Roberta's maternal grandfather, an undeniably devout Methodist preacher, had seven children with his first wife before she died after the final birth and then had twelve more kids with his second wife before she also died in childbirth. Women had no rights -- they could not refuse their randy husbands access to their bodies even if another pregnancy would be fatal. Their marriage dowry was given to their husbands, they could seldom work outside the home and if they did, the law required them to surrender their earnings to their husbands every payday. Actually, they were treated as brood mares as Abigail Smith Adams wrote and wrote again to her husband Samuel Adams when he was helping form the United States government. She urged him over and over to give women some civil rights but he was unable to persuade the southern contingent of politicians to treat women fairly. It took more than a hundred years for women to gain the vote and some simple rights to manage their own lives. With disease and death a common outcome of a sexual relationship, and with a complete loss of freedom from entering into a marriage, Roberta says she can certainly understand why Mother Lee founded her Shaker colonies. The arrangement was so women could care for themselves -- by themselves -- and with the celibate companionship of those men who were willing to treat them decently. Of course, Jard also understands why the Shakers prospered during that period and failed when women won some freedoms, learned to plan their babies and could avoid venereal disease through modern medicines. The lives of women became so much better during the 20th century that few needed to abandon marriage and children in order to become real persons. Thus the Shaker colonies vanished as society changed drastically.
Men and women who have lovingly committed their lives to each other have every physical, psychological and spiritual reason to develop deeply satisfying sexual relations as a positive aspect of life. Each of us needs a loving soul with whom to share the many responsibilities and rewards of life, to labor with during the day and to fill the nights with the magic of a passion that doesn't fade but becomes more mature and fulfilling as we enfold one another with kisses and caresses We believe that anyone who teaches otherwise, who wants to ration a couple's sexuality to conception, whether in the church or out, is emotionally crippled and wants others to suffer with him rather than mature in the physical aspects of love. The very concept of life-long celibacy and sexual deprivation is a wicked sociopath requirement laid on couples by medieval minded clergy who are trapped by their sexist theology. Which is why ninety percent of English speaking Catholic women of child bearing age defy their clergy to practice proscribed forms of birth control. And why almost seventy percent of Catholic priests from African, Asian and Latin American nations are rearing families with secret wives or with women with whom they are in permanent sexual relationships. To end this practice of love and affection would destroy the Catholic leadership of most nations south of the equator.
Fortunately, even a when person has been crippled and confused by religious, political or cultural myths about the role sexual relationships play in life, human resilience is so great that he or she can learn how to live a purposeful life, one leading to happiness and permanence in relationships. No one is doomed to unhappiness in a partnership unless he or she accepts someone's manipulation of himself. Ridding oneself of distorted symptoms and selfish behaviors can help pave the way toward maturity and fulfillment.
We, Roberta and Jard -- have lived together for almost half a century. We reared three kids and even our grandkids have kids now and we still love each other dearly. We would like to be able to report to you that we had a storybook romance and marriage: We would like to, but alas, we cannot. To start with, Roberta certainly did not get a Prince Charming in Jard. He is a stubborn, willful man who has gone through life doing precisely what he wanted to do. Of course, Roberta wasn't a Fairy Princess -- at times the sparks flew. They still do! But, we started life even, both having naive attitudes about living together. She assumed Jard would be like her father, and he thought Roberta would be like his mother. Don't all young couples make that mistake? We soon learned how wrong that was but above all we shared a strong religious faith that helped us!
At one time we were even like two veteran riflemen in combat. One soldier was from the Louisiana marsh country while the other was from the mountains of Colorado. They had little in common but survival, they didn't understand each other, and they would not have even known each other but for the fact that they were in the Army at the same time. However, they have saved each other's life so often that each has forgotten how to survive without the partner. One kicks in the door and the other throws in the grenade. Without a great deal of deliberation! We have even moved past that and now are fairly tolerant and understanding. The repeated grinding of two dominant personalities, although it created friction and sparks on many occasions, has abraded a pretty good fit to our marriage. Sexual pleasure and psychospiritual intimacy are still vital parts of our ivies, and we recommend them highly to everyone (although we realize that sexual satisfaction can exist only as a part of our total relationship). We are fortunate that we have kept our sexual relationship alive and satisfying -- despite the myth that sex is for the young. I suppose many in the reactionary church who would limit sex to conception and childbirth consider us a dirty old couple -- but you can imagine how little time we spend worrying about their neuroticism! Love is a constant source of rejuvenation for our life together.
In LOVERS FOR LIFE we have included projects and processes for your use. They have proved very valuable for us and for couples in our seminars. In the beginning, using them may make you feel as awkward as giving a speech or singing a solo for the first time. They will become familiar with use, however, and will help you develop a mutually supportive partnership that remains pleasurable and permanent. Use them well to strengthen you mutual concern and self-transcendence; for they are tools with which to build greater understanding. Even if boredom and desperation have set in, these methods have the power to revitalize a relationship and make it worth keeping -- even when you are not making love at the time. May God bless your attempts to grow toward happiness and fulfillment, for all of your life!
SAMPLE SELF-FOCUS
WHY DO YOU SUPPOSE OUR VICTORIAN ANCESTORS WERE SO DETERMINED TO KEEP WOMEN SUBSERVIENT TO MEN -- EVEN TO THOSE WHO WERE ABUSIVE AND SOMETIMES MURDEROUS?
WHY DO YOU THINK MANY MEN STILL ASSUME THAT THEY OWN THE WOMEN IN THEIR LIVES -- THAT IF THEY CANNOT CONTROL A WOMAN, THEN NO OTHER MAN SHOULD LOVE HER?
SAMPLE PROJECT BASIC ASSUMPTIONS
Discuss with a friend or write a short paragraph or two or three sentences on what the following could mean to you.
MEN AND WOMEN REALLY DO NEED EACH OTHER FOR LOVE TO PROSPER.
SEXUAL PLEASURE AND SATISFACTION IS A SOUND ASPECT OF LOVE.
ONLY BY MATURING TOGETHER CAN LOVE BECOME DEEPLY FULFILLING.
We wish you the very best as you make your life meaningful and fill it with love.
Tips for Christmas Shopping for Babies and Infants
Tips for Christmas Shopping for Babies and Infants A baby's first Christmas will always be treasured by his parents and when it comes to gift-giving this is a perfect time to start your own tradition, like buying a special holiday ornament representing the events of the year - either personally or something from world events or special celebrations, like the Olympics or a World Series or Super Bowl-themed ornament.
Here are some other can't-miss gifts for Christmas for a newborn:
Piggy Bank: A piggy bank can be so much more than a place to hold loose change - a hand-painted and personalized bank is a collectible gift that will be treasured for a lifetime. It will also come in handy when the child is older as a great way to teach a young child how to start saving and managing his money.
Classic Baby Toys: Nostalgia is the new "new." Parents love to see their kids play with the toys of their own youth. Shop around for old-school Fisher Price people and buildings, wooden ABC blocks, shape sorters, Care Bears, jack-in-the-boxes. If you know the parents well it should be fairly easy to figure out what classic toys they enjoyed as children.
Diaper Cakes: If you ask new parents what they spend the most money on they will almost always tell you it is diapers. A diaper cake is a thoughtful gift - the cakes are made up of either disposable or cloth diapers and resemble a tiered cake - think wedding cake for babies. They almost always include other accessories such as toys, bibs, clothes, socks, pajamas, rattles or blankets and often a keepsake as a little gift for mom. Diaper cakes are also perfect for baby showers or to present on arrival home from the hospital.
Educational Toys: Every parent loves educational toys. Why not maximize playtime by learning a motor skill? There
are plenty of toys geared toward fine motor development or that have striking contrasting patterns for baby to look at and talk to. Teethers and blankets with tags or a satin stripe of a blanket offer various sensations when baby rubs them or puts them in his mouth.
Books: Another great idea, and something I always buy for new babies, is a book. Parents are swamped with toys and clothing on the birth of a baby and at Christmastime - toys break or children get bored with them, but you can start building a library that the whole family can enjoy for years. Soft, squeaky or washable books are perfect for babies and real little kids, but don't be afraid to buy books that are a little ahead of where baby is - he will grow into it soon enough and it will live on his bookshelf longer.
Spend some time thinking about the baby and his parents and family life and try to tailor your decisions to what is important to them - is the family religious or spiritual? are the parents musically inclined? is mom a writer? is dad a NASCAR fan or a hockey fan? You are sure to come up with a perfect gift every time if you strive to make it personal and meaningful.
Here are some other can't-miss gifts for Christmas for a newborn:
Piggy Bank: A piggy bank can be so much more than a place to hold loose change - a hand-painted and personalized bank is a collectible gift that will be treasured for a lifetime. It will also come in handy when the child is older as a great way to teach a young child how to start saving and managing his money.
Classic Baby Toys: Nostalgia is the new "new." Parents love to see their kids play with the toys of their own youth. Shop around for old-school Fisher Price people and buildings, wooden ABC blocks, shape sorters, Care Bears, jack-in-the-boxes. If you know the parents well it should be fairly easy to figure out what classic toys they enjoyed as children.
Diaper Cakes: If you ask new parents what they spend the most money on they will almost always tell you it is diapers. A diaper cake is a thoughtful gift - the cakes are made up of either disposable or cloth diapers and resemble a tiered cake - think wedding cake for babies. They almost always include other accessories such as toys, bibs, clothes, socks, pajamas, rattles or blankets and often a keepsake as a little gift for mom. Diaper cakes are also perfect for baby showers or to present on arrival home from the hospital.
Educational Toys: Every parent loves educational toys. Why not maximize playtime by learning a motor skill? There
are plenty of toys geared toward fine motor development or that have striking contrasting patterns for baby to look at and talk to. Teethers and blankets with tags or a satin stripe of a blanket offer various sensations when baby rubs them or puts them in his mouth.
Books: Another great idea, and something I always buy for new babies, is a book. Parents are swamped with toys and clothing on the birth of a baby and at Christmastime - toys break or children get bored with them, but you can start building a library that the whole family can enjoy for years. Soft, squeaky or washable books are perfect for babies and real little kids, but don't be afraid to buy books that are a little ahead of where baby is - he will grow into it soon enough and it will live on his bookshelf longer.
Spend some time thinking about the baby and his parents and family life and try to tailor your decisions to what is important to them - is the family religious or spiritual? are the parents musically inclined? is mom a writer? is dad a NASCAR fan or a hockey fan? You are sure to come up with a perfect gift every time if you strive to make it personal and meaningful.
Tips For a First-Time Mom
Tips For a First-Time Mom Having a baby can be one the most life-changing experiences there are. And not all those changes will be easy to cope with. Here are some tips for a first-time Mom, to help you get through the rougher times.
The vast majority of women today, are working when they become pregnant. That means making a decision whether to stay home with the baby, or return to work. This is something you can consider during your pregnancy, weighing the pros and cons of your income, versus the benefits to this child, and any others to come in the future. If you decide to return to work, finding childcare ahead of time, will relieve you of the worries when your maternity leave is at an end.
Women who do work full-time, often find themselves swamped in things that relate to the baby, whether it's their laundry, their nap schedules, or their feedings. At times it can seem like your whole life revolves around them, where it used to involve co-workers, friends and visits to family.
One of the most valuable tips for a first-time Mom, is that you shouldn't give up your entire life to the new one that you're carrying. After the baby is born, you will be their primary caregiver, but you don't need to be tied to them every second. Make some time for you, whether it's a yoga class at night with Dad doing the babysitting, or a date out with your partner, and one of the grandparents spoiling the new arrival.
It's important that you have a break from the constant focus of your everyday activities with the baby. This can include many at-home activities as well, like reading, quilting, or even crafts that you enjoyed before the birth. The baby will be just as happy watching you relaxed and involved in your hobby, as they would be if you were doing the laundry.
You might even find a group for mothers at your church or local community center. Sharing tips for a first-time Mom with others, is one way of easing the pressures and worry of whether you are doing things right, and the time out, even with baby, will be a change in routine that you'll welcome!
The vast majority of women today, are working when they become pregnant. That means making a decision whether to stay home with the baby, or return to work. This is something you can consider during your pregnancy, weighing the pros and cons of your income, versus the benefits to this child, and any others to come in the future. If you decide to return to work, finding childcare ahead of time, will relieve you of the worries when your maternity leave is at an end.
Women who do work full-time, often find themselves swamped in things that relate to the baby, whether it's their laundry, their nap schedules, or their feedings. At times it can seem like your whole life revolves around them, where it used to involve co-workers, friends and visits to family.
One of the most valuable tips for a first-time Mom, is that you shouldn't give up your entire life to the new one that you're carrying. After the baby is born, you will be their primary caregiver, but you don't need to be tied to them every second. Make some time for you, whether it's a yoga class at night with Dad doing the babysitting, or a date out with your partner, and one of the grandparents spoiling the new arrival.
It's important that you have a break from the constant focus of your everyday activities with the baby. This can include many at-home activities as well, like reading, quilting, or even crafts that you enjoyed before the birth. The baby will be just as happy watching you relaxed and involved in your hobby, as they would be if you were doing the laundry.
You might even find a group for mothers at your church or local community center. Sharing tips for a first-time Mom with others, is one way of easing the pressures and worry of whether you are doing things right, and the time out, even with baby, will be a change in routine that you'll welcome!
Tips For a First-Time Dad
Tips For a First-Time Dad So you're going to become a father. Now is not the time to panic. You've got lots of time to get used to the idea, before that new life you helped create, arrives to join your own. These tips for a first-time Dad will help you to survive the pre-baby and post-birth jitters.
Be supportive of your partner during the pregnancy. Some women have a more difficult time than others, and the fluctuation of hormones can bring on everything from mood swings to what seems to be unreasonable irritation with you, and everything else. While you may not understand her moods, remember that they are transient, and weather them in whatever way works best for you both. She may be irritated, but would appreciate a simple gesture like flowers, a foot rub, or even a cup of tea without having to get up. You'll find your own paths to peace, as the pregnancy progresses.
When the baby arrives, don't be upset if you don't fall in love immediately. You're excited to be a father, but often men think they are failing in some respect, when they don't feel the same overwhelming bond that a mother does. But you didn't carry another life inside you for nine months. So one of the best tips for a first-time Dad, is to give yourself time to love, and be loved back.
Because you have been basically on the "outside" of things until the birth, you may not feel you're really an integral part of their life. Nothing could be further from the truth, because you are now a father, and with that comes all the responsibilities and worries that a mother has.
Parenting isn't done alone, it's done together, with the two of you supporting each other, giving each other breaks from the routine and stresses, as well as taking pleasure in watching your child grow and thrive, together.
Be supportive of your partner during the pregnancy. Some women have a more difficult time than others, and the fluctuation of hormones can bring on everything from mood swings to what seems to be unreasonable irritation with you, and everything else. While you may not understand her moods, remember that they are transient, and weather them in whatever way works best for you both. She may be irritated, but would appreciate a simple gesture like flowers, a foot rub, or even a cup of tea without having to get up. You'll find your own paths to peace, as the pregnancy progresses.
When the baby arrives, don't be upset if you don't fall in love immediately. You're excited to be a father, but often men think they are failing in some respect, when they don't feel the same overwhelming bond that a mother does. But you didn't carry another life inside you for nine months. So one of the best tips for a first-time Dad, is to give yourself time to love, and be loved back.
Because you have been basically on the "outside" of things until the birth, you may not feel you're really an integral part of their life. Nothing could be further from the truth, because you are now a father, and with that comes all the responsibilities and worries that a mother has.
Parenting isn't done alone, it's done together, with the two of you supporting each other, giving each other breaks from the routine and stresses, as well as taking pleasure in watching your child grow and thrive, together.
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